{"id":112,"date":"2021-03-08T23:46:26","date_gmt":"2021-03-08T23:46:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.susanoneill.us\/?page_id=112"},"modified":"2026-04-20T13:47:59","modified_gmt":"2026-04-20T13:47:59","slug":"new-blog","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.susanoneill.us\/?page_id=112","title":{"rendered":"Blog"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong>For NO KINGS day, March 28:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As an Army nurse in Viet Nam, I saw my first Forever War. I went home in 1970, when Kissinger and the Vietnamese were negotiating its end.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And it did end. In 1975, five long years later. Five more years of death and further destruction\u2014of human beings, of that beautiful country; more than 3,000 new US names to be added later to our Memorial Wall in DC.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And for what?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Like the king he THINKS he is, Donald Trump (who had his daddy work hard to avoid having him sent to war) believes war is a game, and that our military is his to use and lose\u2014disposable while they\u2019re alive; \u201csuckers\u201d and \u201closers\u201d when they die in service to their country.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019m old; I don\u2019t play Call of Duty. But I have played Chess. If Trump played chess\u2014which I really can\u2019t picture\u2014he\u2019d be that guy who tries to win by wiping out every piece on the board: tear down the castles, humiliate the bishops (maybe even make them all wear black shoes that don\u2019t fit to show who\u2019s boss), and blow up the pawns. Boom!\u2014No foresight, no strategy, no endgame.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ultimately, that guy loses because there\u2019s nobody left to protect the king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Can we wait forever for this wanabe king to fail, and to fall? Once the board is laid waste, how many pawns will have to bleed and die in his name?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And for what?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>War is no game, to be fought at one man\u2019s whim. We need no kings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Our troops are not pawns: We must say no to Forever Wars.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And finally, immigrants add to our country\u2019s strength; those I\u2019ve met\u2014I live in Brooklyn, and it\u2019s hard to NOT meet, know, and live with immigrants here\u2014are ambitious, hard-working, and determined to give their children a better life than theirs. ICE has only existed since 2003. We got along without it before, and we\u2019d be far better without it now. I humbly suggest that we abolish ICE.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>February 2, 2026:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s been awhile since I\u2019ve posted. Frankly, I haven\u2019t had the heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I have been watching this country race toward mass acceptance of cruelty and delusion at a pace that I find dizzying. Our \u201cpresident\u201d is throwing out bile and disinformation, both on his own, and through his chosen playthings (GI Joe, Brunette Barbie, Blonde Barbie, cross-wearing Barbie&#8211;and Stephen Miller, his Claus Barbie), at a literally insane pace. He is using our hard-earned tax money for his own enrichment, and spending it on a great smorgasbord of crap that profits him and others among the super-rich, while dancing the YMCA on our Constitution\u2014all through the befuddled inaction of a supposedly \u201cco-equal\u201d congress, and the blessings of a supposedly \u201cco-equal\u201d court that\u2019s stacked to favor him politically, even criminally, when his endless lawsuits reach their level. We&#8217;re almost certainly also paying for all those lawsuits.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But hey, the super-rich work hard for their tax cuts and government perks&#8230; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I once met a waitress who greatly admired Trump. When I asked her why, she answered, \u201cHe tells it like it is.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Looking at the way things are shaking out, I take that to mean he \u201ctells it\u201d out loud\u2014the \u201cit\u201d being thoughts that we common people tend to avoid saying, because we don&#8217;t want other common people to think we&#8217;re nasty a**holes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But I digress&#8230; So, about the atrocities in Minnesota right now. So our \u00fcber-powerful &#8220;president&#8221;\u2014with the advice and hearty participation of Stephen Miller\u2014has singled out the least powerful people in the country to vilify, torture, and stoke hatred against: so-called \u201cillegal\u201d immigrants. Cheering him on from the sidelines are the above Barbies, the likes of Fox and NewsMax, and the Greek Chorus of the Heritage Society.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He sends ICE&#8217;s badly-trained masked sociopaths in huge numbers to places like Minneapolis, Portland, OR; even Lewiston\/Auburn, ME, to wreak havoc and break up families, and kill a couple of citizens in the process. That so many of those grabbed off the street (or seized from their own homes via government-sanctioned break-ins) are in the LEGAL process of seeking asylum evidently doesn&#8217;t mean squat: they still have to go\u2014to an interim \u201ccamp\u201d as far away as possible from those who love them, then&#8211;after cooling their heels for days, weeks, months, or years&#8211;to their home country, or maybe just to some random country where they\u2019ve never set foot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One of our biggest issues, I think, is how we frame immigrants as \u201cillegal.\u201d In addition to those who are actively seeking asylum&#8211;who have suddenly become &#8220;illegal,&#8221; for no really good reason&#8211;there are others who don\u2019t have the proper papers and are also \u201cillegal.\u201d And being &#8220;illegally&#8221; here, <em>all<\/em> these people are officially \u201ccriminals.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But a great many of those without papers have been working here for years, supporting families, making a place for themselves in a community. Being productive, being decent neighbors. We have no official mechanism for these people to be permitted to stay, once somebody official discovers their papers are not in order. Because, once again, they&#8217;re &#8220;illegal,&#8221; and therefore &#8220;criminals.&#8221; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even if they came here for the same thing so many of our ancestors wanted&#8211;a chance to make something of themselves, and their descendants&#8211;they have to go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When we mass-deport them, who pays for that? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Why, you and I; we the taxpayers. We pay for Trump, ICE, Miller (WE PAY FOR STEPHEN MILLER&#8211;let <em>that<\/em> sink in!), all the participating Barbies, the see-no-&#8220;illegals&#8221; congress, the litigation, even the aptly-named Cash and his FBI&#8211;who have somehow gotten into the deport the &#8220;criminals&#8221; act&#8211;and for all those zip-ties, the flights, the camps, the food (such as it is), the medicine (such as it is), the guards (such as they are).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Weeeeee!! WE do all that!!!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Oh, yeah: If we break up their families, we also have to help pay for the upkeep of those left behind, because the deportee is not around to do it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>None of this is exactly an economic bonus. Not to us; not to the family, who are so often full citizens of the US. Nor does the loss of the worker profit those for whom, or with whom, they work. Nor is it an economic boost for the customers they have been dealing with. Whose houses they help build; whose food they pick, prepare, serve, or clean up after; whose chickens they pluck; whose homes they clean; whose sick grandparents they care for; whose decent lives they make possible in myriad ways that most of us don\u2019t even think about. Until they&#8217;re gone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But I suppose spending that money is how we thank them for their services.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Such situations are far more complicated than the insults, labels, and absolutist actions, that frame the cruelties that are being perpetrated in our names. And on our dime.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To sort out this mess to everybody&#8217;s advantage requires working together. It requires a sense of history. It requires REAL Christian values, not the fake Heritage Society variety. It requires human kindness, a will to find justice, and a functional government that respects its checks and balances. A government, dare I say, that appreciates ambition and drive, even when those who exhibit it have skin that is not lily-white.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If we could do that, maybe we wouldn&#8217;t have so many people circumventing our current unnecessarily byzantine process by coming in &#8220;illegally.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>August 14. 2025:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I was listening to a report this morning on our under-attack NPR station (because the King <em>always<\/em> attacks the media that criticize his reign) about the current court order to humanize the ICE facility in NYC. Among other things&#8211;such as granting reasonable living space to the inmates, who are &#8220;criminals&#8221; because of their seditious (See June 11 entry) efforts to immigrate, at the potential cost of their lives, to our immigrant country&#8211;the order stipulates that they receive three meals a day instead of the current two, get reasonable necessary healthcare, and are granted access to legal representation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I&#8217;m sure the Trump administration will comply, as they always do (that&#8217;s sarcasm, for those who don&#8217;t recognize it).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I thought about the Germans during WWII, how they seemed to remain willfully ignorant of what happened in the camps in order to live their day-to-day lives. At what point, I wondered, do we all become Nazis by extension?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It doesn&#8217;t necessarily take enrolling in the Party to become a Nazi; it might just take a complicit ignorance. And when you&#8217;re barraged daily with NEWS (as opposed to common news), it&#8217;s easy to follow your preferred outrages or delights of interest. Which often excludes people you don&#8217;t know in person, even though&#8211;here in Brooklyn and beyond&#8211;they might have prepared and served you your food, cleaned up the club where you danced, polished your fingernails, staffed your local bodega, helped build your new roof, and lived two block over in that housing complex where you&#8217;re glad you don&#8217;t have to rent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You don&#8217;t have to join ICE to be a Nazi, although it seems they&#8217;re eager to sign you on. You just have to ignore what they&#8217;re doing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And really, what choice do we common people have in the matter? Might as well not stress over the treatment, and the fate, of people we don&#8217;t know, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My guess&#8211;not having lived in Germany in the 30s and 40s&#8211;is that people in many European countries during WWII felt that way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And this disturbs me, an old woman of 77 with no real power to change the horrors I see developing around me. Human beings being abducted in the streets by masked goons; a &#8220;camp&#8221; built in an ecologically fragile area in Florida that is surrounded by alligators and infested with mosquitos, or even an overloaded, inhumane &#8220;camp&#8221; in New York City, where a sick &#8220;inmate&#8221; can have a seizure for a half-hour before somebody finally tends him, where nobody has access to a lawyer, never mind a semblance of any due process&#8211;what can <em>I<\/em> do about it? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Public protests? Check. Letters and calls to my reps in Congress? Check. Petitions signed? Entries in a blog that is mostly unread? Check and check.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even people who have so much money that they <em>could<\/em> do something about it are doing nothing, because pissing off the King&#8211;which our Constitution insists we do not have&#8211;begets retribution. Well&#8230;doing almost nothing: Mark Zuckerberg&#8217;s growing compound in Palo Alto evidently features underground shelters to protect him and his family from whatever takes place outside. I&#8217;m sure others are using their billions equally altruistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Do we have to wait until the growing economic mismanagement causes someone&#8211;<em>anyone<\/em>&#8211;with power to reconsider the folly of Project 2025, which now governs us, while our neighbors are disappeared into our ever-growing cancer of concentration camps? Do we have to permanently move ourselves and our clever signs into the streets? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Or do we have to just turn our backs on the inhumanity fostered by the authors of P2025, their orange puppet King, our corrupt Supreme Court, and the soulless Stephen Miller, as they trash our Constitution and ignore the last bastions of resistance in the lower courts&#8211;so we can get along with our own small lives? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>July 9, 2025<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dear Donald:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Every time I see you, you look so unhappy. I miss your good humor, your sense of joy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Is it\u2026the bone spurs?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s upsetting to see you this way. It <em>looks<\/em> like you\u2019ve got everything you could want. You even got that Big, Beautiful Bill. Think how rich that tax cut will make you! And there\u2019s that billions of dollars coming to help you put immigrants away in those camps. And <em>more camps<\/em> coming! Alligator Alcatraz? Hah\u2014nothing compared to what you\u2019ll build with all that money!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even those voters who wanted you to put immigrant criminals away are gobsmacked at how efficient and effective those guys are that you hired to \u201cdisappear\u201d all these people, even the ones that <em>aren&#8217;t<\/em> criminals. Poll after poll tells you how good you are at that whole business! So much so, that\u2014just like you promised once before\u2014there\u2019s so much success that <em>everybody\u2019s<\/em> getting tired of succeeding!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So why can\u2019t you cheer up?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019ve put people who look so <em>great<\/em> in high positions, that when they go on camera, everybody thinks, \u201cMy, he does hire <em>great<\/em>-looking people!\u201d Pete, Kristi, Karoline\u2026even JD\u2014that eyeliner really makes his eyes pop&#8211;they all look so <em>amazing<\/em>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019d think that alone would make you smile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Is it\u2026Stephen Miller? Okay, not so pretty. But sometimes you just gotta go with function over form. You have to admit, he\u2019s a real gem, the <em>best ever<\/em> at caging those immigrants.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>That<\/em> should make you happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Is it your fallout with Elon? I know\u2014it\u2019s kind of like another divorce, right? Aw. But hey\u2014You won the election\u2014<em>and<\/em> you got to <em>keep the money<\/em>! And X! And all those \u201cstaff cuts\u201d that his little techie-bros made happen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So why so gloomy-gus?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019ve got your Crypto coin. And your bibles. And <em>bonus<\/em>\u2014you got all those super-Christians who buy them! You\u2019ve got your airplane. And you\u2019ve got lots of friends: just over half the Senate; even more of the House; they\u2019ll do <em>anything<\/em> you want! And the old gang at Fox. Oh, and the Supreme Court just <em>loves<\/em> you! They love you more than they love the <em>Constitution<\/em>! And since loving the Constitution is what the French would get all fancy and say is their <em>raison d\u2019\u00eatre<\/em>\u2014that means it\u2019s the reason they exist\u2014that\u2019s a <em>really<\/em> big deal!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That should have you dancing. It\u2019s been <em>so long<\/em> since you danced\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Is it Melania? Hmm. But look at the bright side: you\u2019re famous, and as you yourself said, <em>when you\u2019re famous<\/em>\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ha! Do I detect an itsy-bitsy glimmer?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Oh, dear\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Well&#8230; You\u2019ve got the Heritage Society, and that plan they wrote for you, and they even bring you all those nifty proclamations you just have to sharpy your name to. Why, you don\u2019t even need those boring Daily Briefings, because they take care of <em>everything<\/em>. Amiright?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Donald??<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How about this: You\u2019ve got all those countries quaking in their boots, if countries have boots, because of your Mighty Tariffs. And all your buddies at Mar-a-Lago. And your <em>golf trophy<\/em>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Is it Vladimir? Bibi? Iran? The Houthis? Oh? Just think how impressed they\u2019ll <em>all<\/em> be, when you get that Nobel Peace Prize! <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So\u2026why <em>do<\/em> you look so unhappy?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>June 11, 2025<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Today, I painted this on a piece of posterboard:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><strong>It\u2019s not criminal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><strong>to seek<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><strong>SANCTUARY<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><strong>From Violence and Inhumanity<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><strong>Nor to give it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s a sign for Saturday\u2019s protest. The protest is themed \u201cNo Kings,\u201d to counter the over-the-top military parade scheduled to grind through the streets of DC to celebrate \u201cFlag Day\u201d\u2014and Trump\u2019s birthday. (For the record, the sign\u2019s reverse shows a drawing, the rear view of a certain naked monarch. Caption: <em>The Emperor Has No Morals<\/em>.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In honor of the firehose of new atrocities flooding from the Oval office, the Sanctuary statement covers the latest dubious attempt to Make America Grate Again. In truth, we\u2019re really Making America More Cruel, but that doesn\u2019t reduce to MAGA. Not clever enough for this circus sideshow administration; they deliver their cruelty with <em>snide<\/em>\u2014like \u201cIf you spit, we will hit\u201d\u2014so it will come across as yet another distracting bit of performative art.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Whoopie! Fun! <em>Squirrel!!!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So here we are, poised to send soldiers trained for combat to quell a US protest against ICE agents. They don\u2019t carry rubber bullets, unless combat has changed a lot since my day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What could possibly go wrong\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I won\u2019t discuss the obnoxiousness of sending in the National Guard over a governor\u2019s objections for a relatively small and localized protest that should\u2014and could\u2014be handled by local cops. And I won\u2019t bloviate further on the offensiveness and danger of adding active-duty Marines to the mix. Cuz, you know\u2026deliberate provocation is standard for our Bully-in-Chief.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019m truly sick of the \u201c(Dark-Skinned) Immigrants are CRIMINALS\u201d mentality being foisted on our country by a government of comfortable, \u00fcber-privileged white offspring of immigrants who, when they came to the US, basically just had to prove they didn\u2019t have TB.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Yes, those white ancestors\u2014who weren\u2019t brought here in chains, and didn\u2019t own this land before righteous European settlers landed and marched them off said land wrapped in smallpox blankets\u2014all came to our shores to find a better life. Most of them worked like hell, at terrible jobs, to create one. Why, Trump\u2019s own Granddaddy Friedrich, a poor German immigrant, made his fortune with hard menial labor during the Gold Rush by running a brothel for miners.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My point is, immigration opportunities were there back in the days of our forebears (with a few exceptions, like the Jewish refugees on the disastrous 1939 voyage of the St Louis). Coming to this country in my great-grandpa Ahinger\u2019s time was simpler than marching through the jungle for months with your family in tow, following guys you paid with your life\u2019s savings, who still might rob and\/or attack you, then surviving the Darien Gap, where others rob and\/or attack you, then swimming the river, then stumbling out into the arms of US border agents&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To give due credit, just to pack up what you can carry and decamp to a new country in a crammed-full, stinking boat had to take a lot of despair, ambition, and nerve, not to mention a resilient stomach. Our white ancestors had to be truly motivated by their circumstances to do it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But to come here via the route taken by so many of today\u2019s Venezuelan refugees and their fellow travelers\u2026Why would you even consider that unless you were flat-out <em>desperate<\/em>? And if you survive that final swim, and you sit at the desk to make your case for sanctuary, and you get your glimmer of hope\u2014your marching orders for government check-ins\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Well, then you have to worry about getting and keeping that terrible job\u2014or two, or three\u2014long enough to get to something better, to <em>safety<\/em>; to, if possible, <em>legal<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just like our ancestors did. The job part, that is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But now, poof!\u2014It\u2019s dangerous to meet those check-ins. No matter who you are, what you\u2019ve lost, what you hoped for; no matter how determined you are, how hard you work, how much hope forced you to take this whole overwhelming journey to begin with\u2026 You wind up handcuffed, without due process. Which, incidentally, is unconstitutional.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And you\u2019re not the only target:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Suddenly, it\u2019s a crime to contribute peacefully to the economy for twenty or thirty years, to raise a family, send your kids to school, build your small life, to become an American in everything but the possession of a paper. You are a criminal, you lead gangs and eat people\u2019s poodles, and nothing you say will change that because you have no right to plead your case.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I am ashamed of my government. My <em>immigrant<\/em> country. We are spending billions to insult and criminalize hard-working people. Billions, to tear families apart. Billions, to send fathers and mothers and students to horrific holding pens. The white, comfortable, \u00fcber-privileged offspring of immigrants are perpetrating extreme cruelty against immigrants.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Whom they consider weak, because they can\u2019t fight back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I wonder how <em>they<\/em> would fare in the jungle, in the Darien Gap, in the Rio Grande?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>March 26, 2025:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I lugged two heavy packages, mostly kids&#8217; books, to the local post office today to mail them to the grand-girls in The Netherlands. There wasn&#8217;t much of a line when I started, but there was only one clerk&#8211;the Asian woman who calls me &#8220;Grandma,&#8221; and whom I refer to as &#8220;Granddaughter&#8221;&#8211;and she was working all the mail, as well as the passports.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She&#8217;s amazingly efficient. She&#8217;s been there at least as long as I&#8217;ve been in Brooklyn, which is since early 2008, and she&#8217;s also unfailingly civil to all in spite of the craziness of the fully-international crowd she serves. Even so, after she processed a passport and served two other customers (one had brought an item to be returned to a store in its original plastic bag with no mailer, and was taken aback when she was nicely informed that it couldn&#8217;t go out that way, and she&#8217;d have to buy one of the big plastic envelopes available at the window or provide her own), the line behind me was doubling on itself. And this was mid-afternoon, mid-week, when the post office is normally all but deserted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She hefted my first box. &#8220;I can&#8217;t say anything, but Uncle Trump has made a few changes,&#8221; she said. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Is that why you&#8217;re by yourself today?&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She rolled her eyes and didn&#8217;t reply. &#8220;I should tell you this&#8211;and I don&#8217;t want to lose you as a customer, but the price your children will pay for this on the other side is going to be very much higher. You might want to think about this.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I shrugged. &#8220;I can&#8217;t do much of anything about it now, I&#8217;m afraid.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Yes, but&#8211;and I really like you, and want to keep your business, but you might think about it next time.&#8221; She processed the first package, then the second, quite efficiently. Then she looked up at her computer and plugged in some numbers. She gave me a figure&#8211;&#8220;This is what they are supposed to pay.&#8221; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It was astonishingly high. &#8220;I hope not,&#8221; I said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She shrugged, &#8220;This is what it says it will cost. You should ask them what they have to pay.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I said I planned to do just that. I paid her the $200 it cost to mail the boxes, whose contents were listed at a total of $54, and told her to get some rest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When I got home, I evaluated the experience, as I always do. I&#8217;m always positive about the staff&#8211;with the single exception of a young woman who was new, and obnoxious to everybody she served (it was the last time I saw her; she obviously hated the job, so I assume she didn&#8217;t show up the next week&#8211;or maybe the next day).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I wrote:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;The service was great; it always is with this experienced and efficient employee. HOWEVER: she was the only one working, with a line that essentially went out the door&#8211;and she was also in charge of the passports. I was amazed at her perseverance and good will, considering the stress that has to be grinding on her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;And the charges for my packages seemed higher than usual; also, she warned me that the cost to my kids who will be receiving these gifts will be higher. She couldn&#8217;t discuss it, but I gathered both the absence of others working and the costs can be laid at the feet of a government trying to make service so bad that we citizens are just dandy with privatization. Which I&#8217;m NOT.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;So I&#8217;m waiting to see what the reciprocal costs will be to our president&#8217;s stupid tariff war, and trying to get my head around how cutting staff at already understaffed post offices will &#8220;streamline&#8221; the service. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;In the meanwhile, the physical facility is in its usual horrible shape, unkempt and grubby, with black mold in evidence both up front and where the staff have to work. I understand that has to do with the landlord trying to oust the office, but it still seems unfair to the staff to have to work in these conditions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;I think I understand why Dejoy resigned without comment. I imagine, even with his many faults (he was, after all, the first link in the Privatization scheme), even he was pissed about the micromanagement planned in the name of our so-called president.&#8221; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I don&#8217;t expect an answer. In the meantime, postal service employees are marching to keep their own jobs, and to fight the privatization of the service. Good luck, folks: it&#8217;s heartening to see <em>somebody<\/em> standing up to the power.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>March 10, 2025:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>An old poem (in the public domain) has been bouncing around in my head as I watch what&#8217;s going on in Washington DC. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Democracies fall; kingdoms die; countries morph into theocracies, autocracies, dictatorships, and sometimes&#8230;into democracies. I realized that back in high school, when I chose this as one of my poems on just that subject for National Forensics. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Funny, isn&#8217;t it, the vivid pictures that poets can paint&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><strong>Four Preludes on Playthings of the Wind<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/poets.org\/poet\/carl-sandburg\">Carl Sandburg<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">1878 \u2013 1967<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><em>The past is a bucket of ashes.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">1<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">The woman named Tomorrow&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">sits with a hairpin in her teeth&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and takes her time&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and does her hair the way she wants it&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and fastens at last the last braid and coil<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and puts the hairpin where it belongs&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and turns and drawls: Well, what of it?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">My grandmother, Yesterday, is gone.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">What of it? Let the dead be dead.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">2<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">The doors were cedar<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and the panels strips of gold&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and the girls were golden girls&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and the panels read and the girls chanted:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp; We are the greatest city,&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp; the greatest nation:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp; nothing like us ever was.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">The doors are twisted on broken hinges.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">Sheets of rain swish through on the wind&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp; where the golden girls ran and the panels read:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp; We are the greatest city,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp; the greatest nation,&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp; nothing like us ever was.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">3<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">It has happened before.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">Strong men put up a city and got&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp; a nation together,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">And paid singers to sing and women&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp; to warble: We are the greatest city,&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; the greatest nation,&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; nothing like us ever was.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">And while the singers sang<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and the strong men listened&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and paid the singers well&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and felt good about it all,&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp; there were rats and lizards who listened&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp; \u2026 and the only listeners left now<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp; \u2026 are \u2026 the rats \u2026 and the lizards.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">And there are black crows&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">crying, &#8220;Caw, caw,&#8221;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">bringing mud and sticks&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">building a nest<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">over the words carved&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">on the doors where the panels were cedar&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and the strips on the panels were gold&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and the golden girls came singing:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp; We are the greatest city,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp; the greatest nation:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&nbsp; nothing like us ever was.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">The only singers now are crows crying, &#8220;Caw, caw,&#8221;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">And the sheets of rain whine in the wind and doorways.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">And the only listeners now are \u2026 the rats \u2026 and the lizards.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">4<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">The feet of the rats&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">scribble on the door sills;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">the hieroglyphs of the rat footprints&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">chatter the pedigrees of the rats&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and babble of the blood<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and gabble of the breed&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">of the grandfathers and the great-grandfathers&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">of the rats.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">And the wind shifts&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and the dust on a door sill shifts<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and even the writing of the rat footprints&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">tells us nothing, nothing at all&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">about the greatest city, the greatest nation&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">where the strong men listened&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">and the women warbled: Nothing like us ever was.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>December 27, 2024:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Two and a half stories of brick and glass; no overhanging trees. Sigh&#8230; (See 9\/29, below&#8230;) <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"898\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/www.susanoneill.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/IMG_3748-898x1024.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-364\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.susanoneill.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/IMG_3748-898x1024.jpeg 898w, https:\/\/www.susanoneill.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/IMG_3748-263x300.jpeg 263w, https:\/\/www.susanoneill.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/IMG_3748-768x876.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/www.susanoneill.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/IMG_3748-1347x1536.jpeg 1347w, https:\/\/www.susanoneill.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/IMG_3748-1796x2048.jpeg 1796w, https:\/\/www.susanoneill.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/IMG_3748.jpeg 2046w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 898px) 100vw, 898px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Nov. 6, 2024, Politics on the Micro Level:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Yesterday, I got up at 4 a.m. to work as part of Vet the Vote, an effort to recruit military veterans to help work the polls.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I was assigned to an old American Legion on Avenue X, a neighborhood that, when the hall was built in the 40s, was primarily Italian. Now it\u2019s mostly populated by folks who came to Brooklyn from various corners of the old Soviet empire. Our interpreters were Russian.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The hall was not ideal for voting. It was a longish room, with a bar and poker table at the far end and a huge, unmovable pool table toward the front. There were five portable tables lined up on the left-hand wall.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The first was mostly covered with random stuff like extra \u201cprivacy sleeves\u201d to cover the ballots, information leaflets, poll-worker instructions, and minor detritus that wouldn\u2019t fit anywhere else. The second, third, and fourth tables were assigned, one district each, to the voter check-in clerks. The fifth belonged to the coordinator, and his supplies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The middle of the room was filled with what, at first, looked like entirely too many privacy booths, where voters would mark their paper ballots. Within reach of these was a file of chairs lining the right-hand wall for tired voters and poll workers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then there was our section\u2014the ballot scanners. We and our three machines were sandwiched between that behemoth of an oak-and-slate pool table and stuff you might expect to line an end wall in an American Legion, including a beer-and-soda vending machine and a big out-of-commission motorcycle. Our scanners were there because it was close to the electrical outlets\u2014and because it was the only space left for them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The ballot scanners are supposed to be private; they are supposed to have several feet of clearance. Ours\u2014because it literally would\u2019ve taken a crane to move the pool table, and that wasn\u2019t part of our equipment\u2014rated a three- to four-foot aisle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just getting to us from the privacy booths was a challenge. From the right, voters had to thread between the chairs and the special Ballot Marking Machine designed to help those with various physical handicaps (It stopped working before noon). From the left, they had to push through three lines of voters waiting for ballots from the tables, and edge past the front wheel of the motorcycle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Two observers from the Election Commission were disturbed by our positions next to our scanners. They recommended that we stand on the other side of the pool table to avoid observing the actual scanning. It was a solid suggestion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In theory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But in practice, most of the more than 1000 citizens who turned out were new voters. Many of them had registered to vote specifically for this election\u2014for Trump.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In theory, I shouldn\u2019t have known they were voting for Trump. But the NYC ballot is not easy for newcomers to understand without reading the fine print. Especially when English is your second language, and you have to figure out what \u201cvote for one\u201d means when you see the names of both presidential candidates twice on the &#8220;president&#8221; line, because here Trump is listed with the Republican Party and the Conservative Party, while Harris is with the Democrats and The Working Families Party.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many, many of our voters marked both options for their candidate. Which made the scanner spit their ballots out, declaring that the voter had \u201cmarked more than one oval for a candidate.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It fell to us scanner personnel to figure out what the problem was\u2014which meant examining the ballot, a process that should in theory take one person of both parties. In practice it meant a Democrat who manned the scanner, perhaps wedged between a wheelchair-bound voter next to the defunct motorcycle on one side of her aisle, and a voter with a walker on the other, facing a line of waiting would-be voters, had no immediate access to a Republican scanner-manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When a ballot problem couldn\u2019t be remedied, we had to explain the issue, put the ballots back into a \u201cprivacy sleeve,\u201d and send the poor voter back to their district\u2019s table, where they\u2019d turn in their unusable ballots for clean ones. Which they would carry back to the privacy booths to re-mark. So it turned out that we <em>did<\/em> need all those booths.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We had a lot of scrapped ballots, which had to be put into specific receptacles and logged in as deactivated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As I was about to leave for my lunch break, a wiry grey-haired woman broke from the crowd, waving an Affidavit Ballot, a non-scanning ballot that clerks provide voters who can\u2019t be found in the registration records. \u201cWhat do I do with <em>this<\/em>?\u201d she demanded. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYou mark your vote,\u201d I said, \u201cthen put it in its envelope.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;So who do I vote for?&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;I can&#8217;t tell you that&#8211;you have to choose your candidates.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She frowned. \u201cI gotta fill all these blanks on this envelope? It says I gotta put my birth date. Nuh-uh! My birthdate is my own damned business\u2014it\u2019s <em>personal<\/em>! I don\u2019t have to do it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just then, one of the Election Commission observers I\u2019d met earlier passed by. I pulled him over. \u201cThis gentleman can tell you anything you want to know about it,\u201d I told the woman brightly. I gave them a smile and left for lunch, stifling a grin. Let him deal with this secrecy issue\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When I returned a half-hour later, both of them were gone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I realized, by the time I left Avenue X at 10 pm, that Trump would probably win. This voter turnout, from the new registrations to the polls, was very well-organized. The Democrats, in contrast, seemed far less engaged on this important micro level.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Several women whose ballot errors I helped remediate\u2014lovely, sincere individuals\u2014assumed because I was so supportive of their new voting efforts that I was Trump-friendly. \u201cWe must pray this turns out right, or we lose our country,&#8221; one told me. Another said, \u201cIf he wins, I will put these \u2018I voted\u2019 stickers all over myself and dance.\u201d Yet another said, \u201cGood luck to us! This is SO important for us all!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The men were more restrained. Many seemed morose; some angry. Most appeared serious, determined, and proud of their first big foray into democracy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This morning, the media are jumping on the Democratic party for not coming out more strongly. I agree with much of this. But I also realized by the end of the long night that whatever Democrats did, they were spitting into a whirlwind of misinformation, from Trump and his media and surrogates, but also from the modern\u2014or perhaps ancient\u2014predilection of our flawed human minds to grasp for simple solutions to complicated problems. It is easier to conjure enemies for us to battle, it seems, than to bring us together with positivity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Perhaps I&#8217;m just depressed this morning, but I\u2019m not sure anything can effectively counter forces like that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>September 29, 2024:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There was a frenzy of shrieking outside the dining room. Male cardinals are noisy, especially young male cardinals. This one was not fully red, and he wanted, needed, <em>demanded<\/em> the seed in my feeder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But the dove, sleek, regal, just\u2026sat. Not foraging; simply guarding its kingdom from this Little Twit, with his spiked pinkish feathers and punk swagger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This dove radiated power.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Another dove, who had been feeding before it, departed, wings whistling, when it arrived. Yet another\u2014pale-grey-brownish, puffy, most likely young, certainly foolish\u2014tried to squeeze in beside it, but flapped off in disarray after an adept peck to his head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It seems that \u201cpeaceful\u201d reputation might be exaggerated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So&#8230;the teenaged cardinal nattered in vain as the big dove sat. When I walked to the window, the dove placidly turned a bright, blue-lined black eye on me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The young cardinal squawkled off.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My bird feeder is suction-cupped to our second-floor apartment\u2019s dining room window. Technically, co-op rules say we\u2019re not supposed to have one. I first flouted those rules a few years ago, when I hung a cylindrical plastic seed tube from the bottom of the fire escape above our small kitchen balcony. It seemed a fine place to put it. Unobtrusive from the outside, easy to see from the inside when I puttered over the stove. Above ground level, away from urban fauna. What could possibly go wrong? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The first month, it brought flocks of birds\u2014cheeky sparrows, chickadees, red-headed house finches.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then the squirrels discovered it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It was a \u201csquirrel-proof feeder.\u201d Right. Those furry little monsters are smart. And persistent. Perhaps you\u2019ve seen this guy\u2019s backyard squirrel obstacle course?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Backyard Squirrel Maze 1.0- Ninja Warrior Course\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/hFZFjoX2cGg?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>I spent a week climbing out my kitchen window to readjust and refill the feeder. Then, one day, I found the cylinder on the balcony floor, empty, next to a tidy pile of raccoon poop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I sighed. I had met my match. I gave the feeder away, and gave up kitchen birdwatching.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For years, I missed the birds. When I was leveled by Covid in March of 2020, I listened to the bird population, burgeoning in our new car-less world, and I longed for them. Perhaps the sight of those little winged miracles could heal me\u2014nothing else could, back then. But I was too weak to battle squirrels and raccoons; I couldn\u2019t even climb out the kitchen window. <em>Forgetaboudit<\/em>, I told myself&#8211;which wasn&#8217;t hard, what with the brain fog.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Last fall, I remembered. And I decided to try again. This time, I would hang a feeder on a truly squirrel-proof window.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We had suction cupped one several years ago to the window of my mother-in-law\u2019s third-floor assisted-living apartment in Maine. She loved it&#8211;except for the doves; they were too big and ate too much, she insisted. She struggled up from her armchair to rap the window until they left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Eventually, at 102 years old, she grew too frail leave the armchair easily. We bought her a laser cat-chaser, and she shooed them off at a distance with the beam. I felt guilty about the laser. Poor doves. But Ev warmed to the sport.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ultimately, when Hospice replaced her armchair with a bed, the doves returned. I quietly put the chaser away and kept the seeds topped off.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I digress. The point is, I found that suction cup feeders worked. So last fall, I bought one and conned my long-suffering husband into hanging it on the top pane of that dining room window.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Our windows are old, the hardware cranky. Poor Paul. It was not an easy job. Especially without a balcony to install it from outside. But no balcony did mean no squirrels or raccoons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The seed sat undiscovered all fall and winter. Then, this summer, it had its first customer\u2014a dove. I walked up to the window, and the bird eyed me brightly, fearlessly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I told Paul, \u201cYour mom\u2019s here.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hey, who knows what comes after this life? If there\u2019s a Purgatory for minor infractions\u2014like maybe chasing doves from your feeder with cat lasers\u2014you just might come back for a lesson in empathy, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019ve come to agree with Ev, though: Doves eat a lot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>About a week after I met the dove, I walked into the dining room to see a brilliantly red, orange-beaked cardinal pecking away at the sorely dwindled seed. He saw me and flapped off, complaining\u2026well, like a male cardinal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Later, a female cardinal\u2014lovely muted grays and pinks, bright orange beak\u2014landed daintily on the feeder and sorted through the seed remains.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The next day, we refilled the feeder. Or Paul did, climbing on a step-stool, hanging an arm over the top of the horrible window, dumping seed from a measuring cup into the platform.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To his credit, he didn\u2019t rush off to buy a cat-chaser.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Now we have a variety of cardinals. A few adults. Two adolescent birds, one male\u2014the Little Twit\u2014and one female. Twit has progressed from pink to red, and the feathers above his new black mask look disheveled, like the young dove\u2019s after his royal elder pecked his head. Maybe somebody pecks at him, too; I would be tempted, if I had a beak. Especially after that day when he found the feeder empty, and sat shrieking on the window sill for several minutes, glaring at me through the pane.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The adolescent female\u2019s color remains a slightly paler version of her mother\u2019s, but her colorless baby beak has turned bright orange.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And there are new, very young birds. Just yesterday, a mature female visited the feeder. Then two little cardinals, too young to classify, flapped and landed, one at a time, in her place while she watched from a nearby wire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>All these cardinals still battle for the seed\u2014respectfully\u2014with the doves. The young dove is looking adult, although he still has a featherless dent on the top of his head. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I have yet to see any smaller birds at the feeder. Filling the thing has become a twice-a-week task. Poor Paul.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I just sent him a link to a website, and labeled it \u201cMy birthday present???\u201d It leads to an Etsy page advertising big wooden bird feeders that can be installed in a window, and filled from inside the room\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>April 27, 2024:<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Names and Games<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On Monday afternoon, in a big, nondescript room on the fourth floor of the Brooklyn Board of Elections, six of us crowded around a table. We stared at the computer monitor in the center, operated by a BOE employee.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cThere\u2019s the curve on the first letter,\u201d I said. \u201cCan we see the petition again?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The computer guy tipped a fat bundle of green petitions our way, and we three members of Team New Kings Democrats examined the signature on the first line. \u201cIt looks the same,\u201d said the teammate on my left. The teammate on my right pointed his pen at the signature on the official voting record on the monitor. \u201cThe top&#8217;s cut off here, but you can see that his letter rises to a point, too\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The man on the other side of the table, representing Team Brooklyn Democratic Party, shook his head. \u201cNot a match.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The Board\u2019s assigned Referee, who sat behind the computer guy, looked from the green petition to the monitor. \u201cI agree.\u201d As Referee, her word was law, unless we appealed the decision to a judge at some later time. The teammate to my left made a note on her iPad. The teammate on my right sighed, then read the second voter ID number on his laptop. The computer guy clicked the second official signature onto the screen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A game?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Depends which side you ask.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s a long story, confusing even to us at that table. Or the groups at the other tables scattered around the room.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;A couple months ago, our friend Gina recruited Paul and me and two other neighbors to petition to join the Kings County Democratic County Committee. It\u2019s the lowest rung of the political ladder of the Brooklyn Democratic party. She gave me a clutch of empty petitions. \u201cYou\u2019ll only need a total of fifty signatures for all four of you, and you\u2019ll be County Committee members. Get five more just in case any turn out to be invalid.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>County Committee members, all unpaid volunteers, \u201crep their block\u201d\u2014we\u2019d represent a neighborhood two streets wide and five blocks long in Brooklyn Assembly District 42. We\u2019d go to a few meetings, vote on a few things. The County Committee would comprise a couple thousand of us; it\u2019s not likely we\u2019d become drunk with power.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Democracy, at the street level.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Gina\u2019s a retired lawyer and lifelong Brooklynite, a member of New Kings Democrats (NKD). She\u2019s a good person, a liberal activist, not easy to turn down. \u201cYou won\u2019t have to actually <em>run<\/em> for the office,\u201d she said. \u201cUnless you&#8217;re opposed by County. We can discuss that later.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWhat? Why would anybody want my seat, if we do practically nothing and have no real power?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWell, the problem is\u2026\u201c Gina named the Brooklyn Party Chairman.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The current Party Chair is a powerful woman; she\u2019s a member of the NY State Assembly\u2014New York\u2019s House of Representatives. She\u2019s Majority Whip, and belongs to, or leads, several important state committees. She\u2019s also our Assembly District 42 State Representative.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At 52, she\u2019s accomplished in her own right: a child of Haitian immigrants, she&#8217;s earned two Bachelors degrees, a couple Masters\u2014former teacher, former engineer, former investment banker. Current law school graduate&#8211;which is appropriate, because she\u2019s <em>litigious<\/em>. Which has everything to do with this story.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As I said, the committee we\u2019re aspiring to can accommodate thousands of members\u2014Brooklyn is populous and largely Democratic. But only half of the seats are ever filled. So you\u2019d think the Party would welcome all Democrats to this supposedly-democratic Democratic process, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But New Kings Democrats and their allies have never really been invited to the Party, so to speak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The group was <em>new <\/em>New in 2008, founded by idealistic Obama volunteers. Their manifesto states they\u2019re \u201ccommitted to bringing transparency, accountability, and inclusionary democracy to the Kings County Democratic Party.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The Kings County Democratic Party didn&#8217;t welcome the group. In 2016, under an earlier Party Chairman, they were outright dismissive\u2014so much so that they literally dismissed a key meeting prematurely when NKD members and other reform groups put up a list of transparency and anti-corruption measures for a vote of the Kings County Democratic County Committee. After some heated back-and-forth with no action, Party voices were raised; reformers countered with chants. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>BOOM\u2014Meeting adjourned. When it reconvened&#8230;those reforms? Fuggedaboutdit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Now, the Party has answered the group\u2019s latest attempt to democratize it by filing lawsuits against seven candidates the NKD endorsed for District Leaders in six Assembly Districts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>District Leaders are the next rung of the County Committee\u2014it\u2019s a big step into Democratic Party <em>realpolitik<\/em>. In fact, the Party Chair herself started her political career in 2010 as a District Leader. Which might explain why she\u2019s suing to keep reform-minded candidates away from a position where they might attain power to advance their agenda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The Party Chair and her party are doing this by challenging nearly every name on the ballots that NKD-endorsed District Leader candidates collected. There are official codes for signature no-nos: NE (Not enrolled as a Democrat), OD (out of district), PR (Printed, not signed), F (forgery)\u2014and ad-hoc notes for &#8220;non-matching signatures&#8221;: my teammate working the spreadsheet just noted \u201csdm\u201d (signature doesn\u2019t match) with each decision by the Referee that an autograph didn&#8217;t fully match the one on the voter rolls. It was a gentler term than F for suspected forgery.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Whatever one called it, suspected Forgery was the main thrust of the Party&#8217;s objections. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Each green petition sheet has ten lines. Each line has a printed name, address, and signature. The petitioner is a Witness; they sign the sheet, swearing the signatures are real. Paul and I and our two co-candidates needed only 50 valid signatures. District Leaders need 500 each, and some collected twice that number.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s not easy to collect even 50 signatures. We slogged through a downpour, knocking on registered Democrats\u2019 doors. We got turned away. A lot. We raided apartment buildings, begging every Democrat on our list. Signers scribbled; many signatures were illegible; all were squeezed into a sort of half-height-line, to make room for their printed names beneath.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I thought it wasn&#8217;t right for the Party Chair to sue to throw NKD-endorsed District Leader candidates off the ballots after they worked so hard to gather all their signatures. And so it was that I volunteered three hours at a table in a nondescript room on the fourth floor of the Brooklyn Board of Elections last Monday. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;It was educational. It was also tedious, an uphill battle. Team New Kings Democrats, Team Brooklyn Democratic Party, the computer guy, even the Referee\u2014not one among us was a real handwriting analyst. Did all our signatures match the signatures made years ago when these folks signed the voting rolls? Did 80-year-old Mary Jones still sign exactly as she did at 20? Did Hector Sanchez sign differently in a half-inch space than he did on an official form? Will Arlo Brown write exactly the same with my clipboard on his knee as he did on that sheet at the polls 15 years ago?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It was an amateur judgement call at best.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;Again, again, again; table by table; line by line. Five days, a rotating raft of volunteers, several paid Election staff\u2014all these unprecedented challenges. The expense to NKD and other members of the reform coalition; grassroots David lawyering up against Brooklyn Party Goliath. The Democratic Party blithely spending money raised from Democratic donors to insult, accuse, drain money and time from, and disenfranchise, other Democrats.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;Hmm\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maybe it\u2019s time to reform the Brooklyn Democratic Party.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>November 11, 2023:  <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The Free Shuttle Bus<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Last Sunday, I grabbed a plastic bag of ashes and dead roses and walked to my subway station, to find it closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The stuff in the bag was the remains of my Dia de los Muertos altar, a remembrance I arrange in our dining room every October: pictures, flowers, candy, and little Mexican totems set around a bowl of sand. The dead, being generous, welcome all to eat the candy, and to stick paper slips with names of lost loved ones in the sand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I disassemble my altar sometime after November first: I box the pictures and other staples, then burn the name slips. I bag the dead flowers with the ashes, and take the subway to Coney Island\u2014a 20-minute ride\u2014where I send them off on the tidal waves, a fitting goodbye.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sunday, however, a sign on the locked station door informed me that it and all nearby stations on the Q line\u2014up to Prospect Park, down to Coney Island\u2014were closed for track repair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We could, it said, take a Free Shuttle Bus to all the stops by walking three blocks to a special bus stop on Ocean Avenue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The Free Shuttle Bus is great, in theory. In reality, it\u2019s straight out of Dante. It\u2019s a slow bus ride that parallels the Q line: passengers hate the crowding, the traffic, and the agonizing pace. Bus drivers hate the unfamiliar routes, and the passengers, who just want to be on the <em>train<\/em>. Everybody hates the drivers, especially when they get lost\u2014as often happens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I considered biking the distance. But it was afternoon, the first day of the time change, so I\u2019d ride back in the dark on a badly-maintained path and roads clogged with traffic. I didn\u2019t want to die, so I gritted my teeth and set off to Ocean Avenue for the Free Shuttle Bus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A sign at the special bus stop told me the Free Shuttle Bus would go to King\u2019s Highway\u2014<em>halfway<\/em> to Coney Island. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And&#8230;after that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The bus came ten minutes later. It was full of passengers who, like me, would normally ride the Q subway. Every age, from every corner of the world, we rode in grumpy peace. The ride was glacial, but uneventful. Until we reached the King\u2019s Highway subway station.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There, we disembarked, and I prayed that <em>maybe<\/em> the subway was actually still open from there to Coney Island in spite of the sign on our station. Alas, no. We were herded across the street by a guy in a neon-orange vest to stand by a closed bus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>After a few minutes, the guy in the neon-orange vest noticed that the bus had a driver inside. He knocked on the bus door and ordered the driver to take us to Coney Island.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI\u2019m going back to Prospect Park,\u201d the driver said. \u201cI been on all day. It\u2019s my last trip.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYou\u2019re going to Coney Island.\u201d The guy in the neon-orange vest waved us into the bus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The driver lasered the guy with a toxic glare, but the guy stood unscathed behind his neon-orange armor. A helpful lady with a Russian accent told a Mexican family bound for Prospect Park that the bus was now going to Coney Island; they hustled themselves out. The driver jerked the door shut, locked himself in his plastic compartment, and we ground away from King\u2019s Highway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ten minutes later, three befuddled passengers\u2014a slight, elderly man and two pale middle-aged women\u2014sidled down the bucking aisle to the front. The elderly man knocked on the door of the driver\u2019s clear plastic compartment door. \u201cVe must get off,\u201d he said, his accent heavy and desperate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The driver stared ahead, jaw set, unspeaking. Driving.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The man rapped again. \u201cVe MUST get off HERE!\u201d Nothing. He then added, \u201cVhere ARE ve????\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nothing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The elderly man rattled the clear plastic compartment door. The driver stared ahead, unspeaking. Driving.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The helpful lady with the Russian accent went to the plastic door and knocked. Nothing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She spoke gently to the elderly man. \u201cYou are maybe on the wrong bus? This is a Free Shuttle Bus. Where do you want to go?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The elderly man asked her, \u201cVhere are ve???\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWe are going where the Q train goes. This will stop in Sheepshead bay, then Brighton Beach, then Coney Island.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The elderly man looked horrified. His two companions spoke with him in a mysterious, guttural language.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The helpful lady patted his hand. \u201cYou are I think on the wrong bus. We will stop soon.\u201c She pressed the stop signal. The sign up front flashed \u201cStop Requested.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The driver, unspeaking, drove past the bus stop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The elderly man wailed. The two pale women gasped. They muttered mysterious guttural words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The driver stopped two blocks later, at a red light. He did not open the door. The elderly man pushed and pulled at the door handle. The helpful lady rapped on the plastic compartment door. The light changed; the driver stared ahead, unspeaking. He drove.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The helpful lady frowned. The elderly man, wild-eyed, shouted, \u201cHe is doing NOTHING! Ve are PRISONERS!\u201d The women grew paler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The helpful lady shook her head. \u201cPff. You must perhaps take a different bus at Coney Island.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Someone pressed the stop signal; the sign once again flashed \u201cStop Requested.\u201d The driver drove past the stop, unspeaking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The man kicked the plastic compartment door. \u201cYou must let us out NOW!\u201d The two women nodded vigorously.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The helpful lady looked up the number of the MTA help line. She tapped it into the elderly man\u2019s phone and handed it back to him. \u201cTell them,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He shouted at the phone, \u201cYou must help us. The man keep us prisoner on this bus. Ve are TRAPPED here. Ve are KIDNAPPED!!\u201d He said to the helpful lady, \u201cVat is this bus number?\u201d She pointed to the number above his head, then spelled it out to him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cHe vill not stop,\u201d the man repeated. \u201cHe vill not talk. He vill not tell us vhere we go. Only drive.\u201d He nodded to the pale women. \u201cVe are three.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He sighed, nodded again, hung up. \u201cHe say go to Coney Island, take other bus there.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The helpful woman nodded. We drove in silence for twenty minutes, then landed, at last, in Coney Island. The driver jerked the door open, then locked himself back behind his clear plastic compartment door.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The elderly man shepherded his charges off. As he stepped out, he turned back to the driver. \u201cYou are NOT A GOOD MAN,\u201d he told the driver. \u201cYou are\u2026FUCKER!!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One of the pale women cursed the driver in her mysterious guttural language. The second woman sneered and gave him the finger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The driver sat in his plastic compartment, staring ahead, unspeaking. The rest of us filed out in silence. The helpful woman took the elderly man\u2019s elbow and led him to a bus stop. The women followed them like pale ducklings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I walked up the street to the beach with my plastic bag of dead roses and ashes. At the shoreline, I opened the bag and shook the contents into the surf.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I was buffeted by a flurry of wings, as a flock of seagulls dove on the rose heads. Most dropped them immediately in disdain; a few flew off, bearing the flowers like prizes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One stood fast before me in the dying sunlight, a bruised yellow petal drooping from its mouth; it lasered me the same malice the driver had given the guy in the neon-orange vest at King\u2019s Highway, what felt like hours ago.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The tide scooped up the remains of my altar, and I bid goodbye to my generous lost souls, and watched a magnificent red sun drop into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then I turned and walked down to the street, to search for the Free Shuttle Bus that might take me back to Ocean Avenue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>October 16, 2023:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Overheard a couple days ago in Park Slope:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dude, emerging from the PetSmart store, to his grinning terrier:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;You really shouldn&#8217;t pee in there, Charlie.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>January 1, 2023<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Yesterday, on New Years Eve morning, I picked up a Christmas package from France at my local post office.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My Brooklyn post office is a big, tattered facility whose clientele is largely English-as-a-second-language, served by an overextended staff whose own first languages often differ both from English, and those of their customers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I find the staff supernaturally patient. Except perhaps at lunch hour, when the lines are outrageously long\u2014not because the staff are eating (They don&#8217;t have time; now and then, a keeper throw them tablets of Soylent Green), but because most of the noontime customers are working stiffs on short lunch breaks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even then, though, the staff try very hard to be accommodating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Oh, there once was a clerk&#8211;this was some time ago&#8211;who railed at his customers when they didn\u2019t present their forms filled out, or spoke with an accent, or counted their money slowly, or chewed gum, or came on a day when his feet were hurting. He was a legend: a clerk at a post office five miles down the road, when I mentioned my local PO, gasped, \u201cThat\u2019s where that <em>awful<\/em> <em>man<\/em> works!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I filled out my customs forms and spoke English, so he treated me decently. But one day he complained to me, \u201cI wish I could cut off my hands so I wouldn\u2019t have to do this job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I nodded and remarked that that could be a mitzvah for us all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He stared at me openmouthed, as if struck by a lightning bolt&#8211;or perhaps a Divine Revelation from beyond the Plexiglas. Then he finished my task in silence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Within a month, he was gone. Retired, they told me. I\u2019m sure I had nothing to do with it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He was replaced by an amiable guy who spends a half-hour sending a package overseas because the system requires him to key the customs info into a computer from handwritten forms. He types one letter at a time, using the eraser-end of a pencil, which demands a supernatural patience from the customer. I send a lot of packages overseas, so if I find I\u2019m next when his window is free, I generously welcome the customer behind me in line to go ahead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But&#8230;back to the package from France. The package that my son and daughter-in-law sent well before Christmas, and began tracking when it had not arrived by the 23<sup>th<\/sup>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>First, they discovered it had been sent to Chicago. Why Chicago? Because it\u2019s closer to France than New York.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019m being sarcastic. However, once our postmaster herself, a young woman with an authoritative air, tracked down a package for me that I\u2019d sent unsuccessfully to France. She printed its itinerary. \u201cYes, it should be in France,&#8221; she read from her printout, &#8220;but this says it\u2019s in the UK.\u201d She looked up at me and asked, quite sincerely, \u201cWhere\u2019s the UK?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Anyway, our French family\u2019s package hit Chicago, in a masterpiece of timing, right before the snowstorm that paralyzed the Midwest. And there it rested until the skies cleared.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The day after Christmas, it landed in Brooklyn. At my post office. It went out on the truck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then it went back to the PO.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This worried me. Were they returning it to its senders? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Something I had mailed to The Netherlands returned to me recently. I&#8217;d made sure its business-sized envelope was correctly addressed, weighed, and properly stamped with an International Forever stamp, but I received it back two weeks after I\u2019d mailed it. There was a printed notice pasted on the front that said \u201cReturned, no bin.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I brought it to the post office and asked the clerk, a very efficient Asian woman who calls me Grandma (I call her Granddaughter in return, which cracks her up), what &#8220;no bin&#8221; meant. She said she didn&#8217;t know.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWhy did they send it back? Is this a US notice, or a Netherlands notice?\u201d I asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She had no idea; she\u2019d never seen this type of notice. But from its look, she thought it must be ours. \u201cYou want me to ask the postmaster?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cAh\u2026probably not,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So now, I worried that the French package might be on its way back to France, and no one would ever know why.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But no: our daughter-in-law texted that their latest tracking claimed the truck had brought it back to the post office because the address had to be \u201cverified\u201d&#8211;it didn&#8217;t have an apartment number. She texted a snapshot of the label that her French PO had printed: the address was complete, but the apartment number was printed smaller than the street address.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Our package delivery guy, Nguyen, knows us because he was our street postman before he moved up to the truck. He would&#8217;ve delivered it, so he must\u2019ve been on vacation. But surely his substitute would notice the apartment number and try to deliver it again? In truth, the PO doesn\u2019t even <em>need<\/em> an apartment number for packages in our building; they go into a locked cage in the lobby to keep them from being stolen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For two days, I dutifully unlocked and picked through the mess in the cage. It wasn\u2019t there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Our French family called the general USPS number, and eventually spoke to a real human in Brooklyn. She verified that the address had to be verified. \u201cShe said it had your apartment number, but not your street address. But she said you could pick it up at your post office,\u201d my son texted. \u201cMaybe the label got messed up in the storm in Chicago?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I went to the post office on December 30. I went during lunch hour&#8211;unfortunately&#8211;because we planned to go into Manhattan that afternoon. The line was long, as expected, and only two windows were open. The two clerks were also processing the odd passport application, a complicated multi-layered task.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When at last I reached a window, I showed the clerk, Peg, the picture of my kids\u2019 label. She took down the number and disappeared into Unverified Package Country.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At the other window, my Asian Granddaughter was working on a toddler\u2019s passport. She ducked out to take a picture of the child&#8211;which wasn&#8217;t easy, because the kid squirmed vigorously as her dad held her in front of the white screen. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The line grew. A man three people back asked me, \u201cWhat the fuck is holding things up?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cShe\u2019s finding my package,\u201d I said. \u201cSorry. It won\u2019t take long.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Granddaughter wished the toddler\u2019s family a happy 2023. Her next customer was an ancient man who spoke Russian. I heard her explain he had to wait to do whatever he had to do until the \u201cdue date.\u201d He didn\u2019t understand, so she wrote this down on the back of the paper he\u2019d presented her, turned it over and circled the \u201cdue date\u201d on the front, and repeated herself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cDo data?\u201d he asked. She turned the paper over, and pointed to the words she&#8217;d written as she slowly repeated them. \u201cYour daughter should do this for you,\u201d she added. \u201cHave your daughter come.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cVen she do?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cOn the due date.\u201d She turned the paper back over and re-circled the date, wished him a happy new year, and motioned to the next man in line.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cVen she do data?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cOn the due date. Have your daughter come then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He moved away reluctantly, and she processed another passport application.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He stood near the postboxes and called across the room, \u201cVEN DO DAUGHTER???\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I waited. It was 15 minutes since Peg had gone package-stalking. The man who had wondered what the fuck was holding things up was now first in line. He frowned at me. I shrugged.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;\u201cFuck this!\u201d He threw his hands up in the air and walked out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Twenty minutes. Granddaughter had processed yet another application and served two more customers. The line was longer, restless, pointedly deficient in the Joy of the Season.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I waited. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>After 25 minutes, Peg returned. \u201cI\u2019m so sorry,\u201d she said. \u201cI can\u2019t find it anywhere.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cCould it be on the truck? If Nguyen was delivering, he&#8217;d at least know our <em>names<\/em>. Is he back from vacation?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cHe came back today.\u201c She lowered her voice. \u201cHe was sick. He had <em>Covid<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cOh dear.\u201d That wasn&#8217;t good. Nguyen smokes\u2014a lot. I would too, if I worked for the PO. I&#8217;d also drink&#8211;a <em>lot<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cBut he <em>is<\/em> doing deliveries today,\u201d she added. \u201cSo\u2026maybe?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I gave her my phone number in case she found the package. There were now a dozen people in line, excluding the ancient Russian man, who was still staring at the writing on the back of his paper as I left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>An hour later, Peg called me while we were on the subway into Manhattan. \u201cI found it\u2014somebody had taken it into the office.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And so, the next day\u2014New Years Eve morning\u2014I waited in line for a half hour and picked up the package.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The package was undamaged, its label completely intact. Scrawled in pen next to the street address\u2014almost over the number to our apartment\u2014was a note that said \u201c12\/27\/22\u2014no apartment #.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>December, 2022<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Merry Christmas\/Happy Holidays to all!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This year, we have learned who owns New York City.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Well, yeah. We\u2019d seen them in subways, skirting the track edge, darting untouched beneath the third rail. We glimpsed a furry skitter on a late-night Village curb at the edge of a funky outdoor dining plaza. We noted a flash of brown in a pile of trash bags.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But rats are smart, we assured ourselves. Rats know their place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Last month, we returned from a vacation to find a round hole in the base of a kitchen cabinet. Beneath it, sawdust. Inside the cabinet, pastas and grains leaked from torn packaging and lay scattered in little piles. We heard, somewhere unseen but too near, an insistent gnawing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Our lives changed. There was <em>before the rats<\/em>; then, abruptly, <em>during the rats<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If it was edible, we locked it in glass jars or stout plastic storage boxes. The Building Super spent so many days in our apartment\u2014moving dishwasher, stove, refrigerator; stuffing steel wool around heating pipes; baiting snap-traps; filling holes in the kitchen walls with more steel wool, mixed with broken glass and cement; cleaning up; returning to fill more holes; bringing and laying sticky mats for rat traps\u2014that we signed adoption papers for him. The gnawing in the walls grew more insistent. The sticky mats caught two rats and Paul\u2019s left foot. Others left footprints or hair swatches on them. We saw rats in the kitchen, the heaters, our nightmares.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At last, the exterminator arrived. He pumped poison into every wall in the apartment, sealed his bullet-holes with plaster, wiped his hands, adjusted his cape, and flew out the window into the darkening city to rescue his next downtrodden victims.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We tiptoed gingerly into<em> after the rats<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We are cooking again. There are no dirty dishes in our sink, no fallen food bits on our floor. There are sticky mats where there once were baskets of potatoes and onions. We are breathing again. We put our ears to our walls, but there is only silence. All our sticky traps are empty.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maybe the rats are dead. Or maybe they\u2019re just discouraged by all that steel wool, broken glass and cement they have to navigate just to reach food that\u2019s locked away in glass and plastic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But rats are smart. I believe they are huddled somewhere, smoking and drinking, nibbling brie and stale crackers. Reading the New York Times as they chew its edges, discussing the news that the city is looking for a Rat Ridder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Plotting how to engage. How to subdue. How to win.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How to keep their city.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>November 8, 2022<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We returned to our Brooklyn apartment Friday, after three weeks out of the country, to find a pile of sawdust under our corner kitchen cabinet. I opened the door. A round hole had been chiseled into the outer lip of the cabinet floor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I stared at the mess inside: pastas and lentils and beans jumbled together, rice leaking from plastic bags. Little clumps of black.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Rat scat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We\u2019ve lived here 14 years. I\u2019d seen rats in the streets and subways, but never in my kitchen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I chased the Super down\u2014calling was futile, because he never checks his voice mail (if I had his job, I probably wouldn\u2019t either)\u2014and by 5 o\u2019clock, we had secured four \u201chumane\u201d sticky-mats designed to catch bugs and mice. The Super assured me they also worked for rats; he\u2019d found a few downstairs while we were gone. They\u2019d had a team painting the basement, and had had to take screens off vents so\u2026yeah, he\u2019d caught a few. Maybe 7 or 8. Or 10 or 11.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He\u2019d caught one in our downstairs neighbor\u2019s apartment. But since she\u2019d bought a cat, he said, she hadn\u2019t seen any. \u201cMaybe you should buy a cat,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We won\u2019t buy a cat. I love cats, but my kids are all allergic to them (even the son who now owns two). Growing up, my kids had other pets. Rodents. Pet hamsters and gerbils. And rats. Smart, interesting creatures. With personalities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We once had an infestation of mice when we lived in Massachusetts. Cute little buggers. I relocated them with a humane trap my older son crafted out of an old plastic lunch pail.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Now I found myself with four \u201chumane\u201d sticky-mats for rodents with no relocation potential. Why make a sticky-mat \u201chumane\u201d if somebody kills what it traps?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cIf you catch one, call me and I\u2019ll get rid of it,\u201d the Super assured me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>With a heavy heart, I pulled the protective covering off the sticky-mats. We put one under the hole in our ransacked cabinet, and the others in places where I might wander if I were a rat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Within ten minutes, I heard an unearthly scream. I ran to the kitchen, where a sleek grey rat\u2014a little small, as rats go\u2014struggled to free itself from the sticky-mat. Paul sat at the table, looking panicked. He stamped his foot, and the rat screeched and struggled harder. \u201cI\u2019m trying to get him to stick\u2014he\u2019s breaking free.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cDon\u2019t stamp. You\u2019re scaring it\u2014upping its adrenaline. You&#8217;re <em>helping<\/em> it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cHe\u2019s getting up!\u201d Paul\u2019s voice rose. \u201cWhat are we supposed to do with him?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I called the Super. His voicemail was full.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I grabbed a sticky-mat we\u2019d placed in the dining room and slapped it over the rat, creating a rat sandwich that screamed all the more piteously. \u201cOh, god&#8211;I\u2019m so sorry,\u201d I told it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cDon\u2019t touch him!\u201d Paul said. \u201cHe\u2019s still going to get out.\u201d He tapped the top sticky-mat with the tip of his shoe, and the rat instantly fell silent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYou <em>killed<\/em> it.\u201d My stomach hurt. I can\u2019t kill anything, except mosquitos, which I consider self-defense. I even scoop up those huge Brooklyn cockroaches with toilet paper and flush them, which I\u2019m pretty sure doesn\u2019t kill a cockroach because they swim, and because nothing short of a hand grenade kills a cockroach.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Paul said, \u201cI was just trying to tamp the sticky-mat down.\u201d He looked shaken. \u201cHe\u2019s not dead. Let\u2019s go get something to eat; we\u2019ll figure out what to do with him when we get back.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I looked down at the rat. Definitely dead. We&#8217;d killed Ratatouille.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I didn\u2019t feel like eating. But eventually I would, and we had no fresh food in the house. And pastas and lentils and beans were not an option.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We came back an hour later. The rat was still dead. I called the Super. His voicemail was full.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I grabbed a dustpan and pried up the sad rat sandwich\u2014not easy, since Paul had stuck the top sticky-mat to the floor with that fateful toe-tap\u2014and took it down to the basement trash cans. \u201cI\u2019m sorry,\u201d I told it. \u201cI\u2019m really sorry.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There were still two sticky-mats left, so I relocated one to the spot next to the cupboard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The next morning, I glanced into my bathtub to find the biggest, ugliest cockroach in Brooklyn. \u201cMother Nature hates me,\u201d I groaned. I scooped it up in toilet paper and flushed it. And flushed again. And again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I walked to the plaza to look for something rat-proof for storing pasta. The small dollar store there is crammed with random items: cups and saucers; umbrellas; party hats; piles of reading glasses; bright blue betta fish swimming in plastic cups. I bought a couple of stout plastic boxes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When I got back, I gloved and masked and tackled the cabinet. Nearly every bag had been gnawed open. A brand-new package of basmati rice was shredded; noodles lay everywhere. Beans and lentils spilled from bags; macaroni leaked from an unopened box.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The only salvageable grains were those I\u2019d sealed in glass jars; the only intact pastas were gluten-free&#8211;and no, I have no idea why. I dug out a nest of sawdust and spinach noodles at the back of the cabinet, swept, scrubbed, disinfected, and stuck the gluten-free pasta in my new boxes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That evening we heard gnawing in the dining room. I found the handle of a wicker basket bitten through. Paul saw movement behind the living room radiator vent, and set a sticky-mat in front of it. An hour later, it was untouched, but there were shreds of chewed paper around it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I noticed the sticky-mat in the kitchen was askew, and shined my phone\u2019s flashlight over its surface.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It was empty, but there were four big, distinct, dusty footprints on its shiny surface.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They spelled out that quintessential Brooklyn challenge: \u201cHey! I&#8217;m walkin&#8217; here.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>April 7, 2022<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Last night, the Universe revealed that the season has at last turned in Brooklyn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I saw my First Cockroach of Spring.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I try hard to be cognizant of Nature\u2019s beauty in all her wildlife. A deer can stop me in my tracks. I admit that\u2019s due in part to the fear of getting too close and catching Lyme Disease (or, now, &nbsp;Covid19), but I do have an awe of the creature itself. A fox mystifies me. An opossum in the street sends me to Professor Google, and pictures of little possums riding on their mothers\u2019 backs. I\u2019ve watched the Squirrel Obstacle Course video at least a dozen times, and sent it to everybody I know (https:\/\/www.google.com\/search?channel=nus5&amp;client=firefox-b-1-d&amp;q=squirrel+obstacle+course+youtube &#8211; in case I missed you).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I won\u2019t eat any animal I would refuse to catch, which leaves me basically vegetarian, with an occasional side of fish, mollusks, or shrimp (not octopus; how could I eat something that\u2019s smarter than I am?).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I respect insects, too, even the ones I find freaky: you won\u2019t find me stomping on a spider, and I try very hard to shoo flies to the outdoors\u2014as opposed to my husband Paul, who loves his flyswatter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So when I saw the enormous First Cockroach of Spring on my bathroom wall last night, I did what any mature, responsible nature-lover would do: I yelled for Paul. \u201cThere\u2019s a <em>cockroach<\/em> in my <em>bathroom!<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He glanced in and said, \u201cOkay&#8230;Where\u2019s this\u2014<em>Jeezuz!!<\/em> That\u2019s\u2026<em>big<\/em>. What do you want me to do with it?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cUm\u2026maybe capture it or something? Don\u2019t kill it; it\u2019ll make a mess on the\u2014\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He mumbled something about walls being cleanable, turned on his heel, and returned with his flyswatter. \u201cIt\u2019s been what? Three, four months since we\u2019ve seen one of these? Where the hell did it come from?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Where does any 4-inch cockroach come from? Ask the Universe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Swat!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I must admit, it was masterful, if nauseating: he smacked it into my bathtub. \u201cThing is really lively,\u201d he said. <em>Swat!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYou don\u2019t have to kill it\u2014just throw it in the toilet.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cockroaches can swim. My own strategy is usually to run the monster down, trap it in a paper cup and toilet paper, drop it out into the toilet, flush it alive\u2014usually a couple times, so it\u2019s past some magical baffle that separates me from the sewer system proper\u2014and tell myself I\u2019m sending it to a happy life there, eating fecal matter with its buddies and swapping death-defying adventures.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So why didn\u2019t I do that this time?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Once Paul had thrown the mangled corpse in the toilet\u2014\u201cSee, he\u2019s still wiggling. Don\u2019t worry, I think he\u2019s still alive&#8230;\u201d\u2014followed by the remaining disembodied legs and smelly unidentifiable parts, I asked myself that very question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maybe it was the surprise of seeing one after so long without a cockroach-sighting. I&#8217;d let my guard down; it felt like they had all somehow vanished: <em>Poof!<\/em>\u2014no more cockroaches in this house.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maybe it was its size. Brooklyn cockroaches are big, one to three inches of body, plus leg and antennae length (not that I actually measure them), but this one was freaking outrageous: the thought of stuffing it into a four-ounce paper cup was laughable. Even the wide mouth of an eight-ounce plastic cup, which I could\u2019ve grabbed from our storage closet, wouldn\u2019t have fit over the thing without squashing a leg or three, never mind those obscenely long antennae.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maybe it was its color\u2014don\u2019t get me wrong; I\u2019m not a cockroach-racist, it\u2019s just that it was Very Dark, nearly black, and the last time I saw a Very Dark cockroach (in fact the only other time, two summers ago), it was in our living room, and it <em>flew<\/em> down from the ceiling. Which really creeped me out, because yes, they have wings, but I had never, ever seen a cockroach use them. So after Paul beat it out of the curtain where it had landed, I went to Professor Google and I learned that the American Cockroach, including that Very Dark one then expiring on the floor, can \u201cglide\u201d (to euphemize the horror).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That\u2019s also when I learned that cockroaches can swim up through drain pipes. And <em>Scientific American<\/em>, no less, announced that a cockroach can live for some time without its head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Without its head.<\/em> Google it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So maybe Paul\u2019s right. Maybe the First Cockroach of Spring really <em>is<\/em> still alive, even though it\u2019s missing parts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And maybe it\u2019s swimming up the drainpipe, past those magical baffles\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>December 23, 2021<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Last Friday, I got the staples taken out of a six-inch incision wound. At the same time, in a different part of the hospital, Paul got his stitches taken out of an inch-long wound in his finger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019m taking more drugs than I\u2019ve ever taken in my life\u2014Celebrex for inflammation and pain, a stomach acid suppressant for the havoc Celebrex can cause, calcium, Vitamin D, an aspirin for blood clots, Tylenol at night to control pain. An opioid that makes me cranky and shaky.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Paul is taking an antibiotic as a precaution. He\u2019s also taking a nap, because the antibiotic\u2019s wiped him out. And he\u2019s worried that the incision doesn\u2019t look quite right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Paul, my husband of 51 years, is a large man with a large personality. He loves to laugh, to tell stories, to wow you with facts he\u2019s gleaned and remembered. If he\u2019s met you, chances are he\u2019ll remember something you said in passing twenty years later. It\u2019s a trait he inherited from his late mother. I find that kind of memory from somebody who can never find his glasses downright mystifying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He\u2019s a leader, a retired CEO\u2014much more assertive than I am. And louder. People follow him because he\u2019s the Tall Guy, the one who radiates assurance. If you meet the two of us for the first time, you\u2019ll remember him. Me, maybe not so much.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I love him; he\u2019s a good man. But sometimes I feel I\u2019ve been seduced into a mysterious competition whose rules I don\u2019t understand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For instance, after we both were sick with Covid back in 2020\u2014a lifetime ago\u2014and were finally given blood tests, his antibodies count was higher than mine. He still brags about that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Several days ago, when I came home from the hospital after my total knee replacement, our daughter Kym brought me a big, gorgeous bouquet of white flowers. She put them in a vase with water and the accompanying flower-reviving powder, but warned that she didn\u2019t have a lot of time to spare, so we should probably cut the ends off the stems so they live longer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I wasn\u2019t up to chopping flower stems, so I delegated the job to Paul.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The next morning I jerked awake to his calling my name. I limped out of the bedroom to find him holding a balled-up paper towel around the pointy-finger of his left hand. Paul takes blood thinners, and the blood was thin\u2014and plentiful. The kitchen sink and the counter looked like an abattoir. \u201cI think I got it to stop,\u201d he said, and withdrew his impromptu wrapping enough for me to see the back of the finger, where the cut was obviously deep enough to require several stitches.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He had been trying to cut the stems of my flowers, he explained, and the big knife he was using hit the marble of the cutting board and skipped over the back of his left hand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I texted Kym and explained her dad\u2019s dilemma\u2014did she know a good clinic close to home? She came up with a five-star-rated walk-in that was less than a mile away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cLet\u2019s go,\u201d I told Paul. \u201cIf you can\u2019t drive, Kym said she\u2019ll rearrange her schedule and drive us.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cIt\u2019ll be fine. We have a Zoom this morning, and I can\u2019t miss it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I checked the clock. It was 8:30 a.m. \u201cThe Zoom is at 11. There\u2019s plenty of time. You need stitches\u2014every time you bend that sucker, it\u2019ll break open and bleed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI\u2019ll go to the VA after the Zoom.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cThe quicker you get to it, the better. You don\u2019t want it to get infected.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nope. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I threw up my hands. \u201cRight after the Zoom, we\u2019re going to the VA.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The meeting was over at noon. Janina, who cleans our apartment every couple weeks, had arrived, and Paul showed her his wounded finger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cThat looks bad,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cLet\u2019s go,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI\u2019m fine,\u201d he said. \u201cIt\u2019ll heal. I\u2019m staying here.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I do not get angry easily, but at that, I lost it. \u201cYou are GOING!\u201d I said. \u201cYou\u2019re GOING if I have to DRAG YOU THERE.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Paul looked flummoxed. \u201cSorry you have to hear that, Janina,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Janina is a recent widow; she lost her husband last year. He was a good man with some serious health issues, and they caught up to him, blindsiding her and the rest of the family. She paused as she arranged her cleaning supplies. \u201cMaybe I should have yelled at my husband more,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Paul, for once, had no reply.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So we went to the VA. Where they spent a long time stitching layers of the top of his finger back together, then wrapping his hand in so much gauze that it looked like one of those oversized foam We\u2019re-Number-One pointy-fingers from a football game. They gave him a regimen of antibiotics to prevent the infection he might&#8217;ve picked up while he Zoomed and dithered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So here we are. Friends and neighbors ask about his wound; he tells them how he injured himself cutting my flowers, and they shake their heads and commiserate. Strangers gawk at his bandages and smile in sympathy. I have a new knee and a cane, and I can\u2019t compete with We\u2019re-Number-One.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I Zoomed with my Amsterdam son Kel this morning while Paul was out playing tennis\u2014after carefully re-wrapping the finger to avoid re-injuring it\u2014and I told him the story of his father\u2019s wound. Kel shrugged. \u201cHe\u2019s gotta have the spotlight.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sigh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>November 30, 2021<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I took my doomed knee out for a two-mile walk today, up to Cortelyou to get a few small groceries, then down that commercial street to Madeleine\u2019s Caf\u00e9 for a green tea. Actually, I took both knees\u2014the relatively healthy one insisted on coming with\u2014and I took pictures of the trees, which have finally turned red and yellow now that November is, as am I, on its last leg.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tomorrow, I show up at the obscenely early hour of 6:45 at the Brooklyn VA to have my right knee replaced with metal and plastic. I have lived with this knee for 74 years, and I suppose I will miss it; the replacement is not, I was informed, going to make me SuperBionicWoman\u2014in other words, Nature still makes the best body structures out of its magical bone and gristle. But I figure if I can walk up the subway stairs without blocking a line of impatient able-kneed fellow travelers, that will be a welcome change from my status quo. And if I can get back on my bike without having to slather the joint with Volteran Gel, that\u2019s a bonus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I feel a bit disloyal, disposing of this body part. It has served me well. It carried me though hours of standing, in my youth, at Operating Room tables. And when our Peace Corps program disintegrated, it staunchly refused to do the same as I trudged up Pico Bolivar in Venezuela while we waited for the reassignment that never came. I forced it to jog for years on pavement&#8211;even while I was hugely pregnant. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This knee was rudely invaded by a scope when it was 40 (probably because of that jogging; like it&#8217;s said about the bee, I am not designed to fly). It suffered a bit of trimming and sanding, but it promptly forgave me and performed like a champ on all those weird stone steps in Positano. It danced at weddings, climbed all over Mount Desert Island\u2019s deserted mounts, and biked the outback roads of Eastern Mass from Andover to Cape Anne and back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019ve badly mistreated my knee, and yet for years it was stunningly kind to me. There was that hot day when it walked me down the Grand Canyon\u2014and the walk back up nearly killed it, and me. We had to rest for two days from the dehydration. I lay in our hotel bed, engrossed in the book I\u2019d found in the gift shop below: <em>Death in the Grand Canyon<\/em>. So humbling, to read that I\u2019d been a bottle of Gatorade short of being one of the characters.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There was the climb up and down that hill in New Zealand that put a brace on its companion and landed me on a cane. That left knee snapped back beautifully with physical therapy. And then there was the time I chased a bus in London and tore the tendon on that same left leg. More bracing; more therapy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pampering the left leg took its toll on my patient, steady right. It hinted that I should buy one of those walking sticks they sell at the head of the St. Sebastian trail in the Basque Country; the couple of miles we walked there were uneven and rocky, and I was amazed at how much it helped. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tripping up that step in the bar in Helsinki added to its annoyance. Then, when Covid took its whack at my joints in April, 2020, my right knee became distinctly unhappy. I tried Zoom physical therapy, but unlike the left, it would not be mollified.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It creaked up the stairs of my little sister\u2019s house in St. Paul, and crackled back down. It limped along the Mississippi River when I left her to visit with her friends. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It hobbled over broken turf when our kids who live in Paris and Amsterdam came to visit this summer. My older granddaughter, seven-year-old Izzy, grabbed my now-quite-handy walking stick one day, and portrayed me lurching on it as an old bent crone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sadly, the spoof was more accurate than I wanted to admit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Grandchildren were the deciding factors.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Faced with the realization that there\u2019s no way I can navigate the five-floor stairway to the Paris grandson\u2019s family lair, or wander the cobblestones of Amsterdam with the grand-girls, or even walk the rolling ground of Prospect Park\u2019s ballfields where my Brooklyn grandson plays, or climb those concrete steps after his brother on his college tours, I am resigned to the certainty that my right knee and I must part company.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I also have the goodwill of my left to consider: the tide has turned, and it is taking up the burden of its mirror twin. That doesn\u2019t seem fair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And so we walked in the beauty of a brilliant late-autumn afternoon today, my old knees and my old me. We have been so fortunate, to have walked, run, climbed, and biked where we have during these 74 years; I have no regrets, although my knees probably do. I suppose the right might feel cheated\u2014all that work and play and stress and fun, and it finds itself disposable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I drew a face on it tonight with magic marker, squinty eyes and cringe-y mouth, to celebrate its feelings. I hope the wipes I have to use in a couple hours don\u2019t remove it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It should be permitted to express itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Also, I want to make sure the surgeon knows which knee to replace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>November 11, 2021<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Last Sunday my nephew called and told me that his mother, my little sister Diane, had died that morning, shortly after midnight Minnesota time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I expected it, but\u2026not so quickly. It was only a few weeks ago when Matt told me she had lost 30 pounds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Thirty pounds is a lot; Diane was not a large person, even before the cancer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I wondered if the problem was her immunotherapy. Back in April, when she had her first infusion, it knocked her taste buds sideways. Matt had told me in October that she had resumed it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Late last month, I sent her a box of junk food&#8211;candies and snacks that she\u2019d eaten eagerly back in June, back when I spent a month sleeping on her terrible couch, feeding her and her cats, trying to simplify her life after her second hospitalization.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I sent the box and called her phone, called again, again, again; no answer. She told her friends, when they visited, that she didn\u2019t want to talk on the phone to anyone. It was hard; her hearing aids were bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She lost more weight, and her friends agreed with her son that she was depressed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Diane had much to be depressed about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She had looked forward to retiring on her 66<sup>th<\/sup> birthday, April 27, after a lifetime of work, thirty years of it spent as a single mother after her husband\u2019s death. She had planned to do some much-needed upgrades on her house once she had that free time\u2014she had an impressive assortment of tools scattered about her rooms upstairs, primer on her ceiling seams, an industrial-sized ladder in her dining room. Next to that, her bicycle sat at the ready. Her friends and she were planning group trips\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then, two weeks before her birthday, she collapsed, and was rushed to the hospital. She had lung cancer, metastasized to her brain. Then, immunotherapy; life looked optimistic\u2014until the seizures, the weakness in her right arm and leg, aphasia, radiation, steroids, re-hospitalizations, therapies, and\u2014even after all this\u2014the imaging that showed one brain lesion dying, while others popped up like some twisted game of Whack-a-Mole.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And this spunky, argumentative, wry survivor of a tough life found herself in a wheelchair in an Assisted Living apartment with her two geriatric cats, concentrating on her words; this gifted artist now signed her name laboriously with her non-dominant hand. She was unable to walk without assistance, unable to drive\u2014never mind riding that bike in the dining room of that house whose sole bathroom was on the second floor, accessible only to those who could climb its narrow, uneven stairs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Diane was no longer the person she wanted to be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She reminded me more than once, back when I was with her, that she was not a patient person. If one of her cats were as sick as she was, it could die with dignity. \u201cI wish\u2026I lived\u2026in\u2026Oregon,\u201d she had said with effort, \u201cwhere they\u2026let you\u2026end it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Matt called on November first to tell me she\u2019d signed up for Hospice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I have been a Hospice volunteer; I applauded the decision. But I also know how boring it can be sometimes, waiting to die.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I thought she might enjoy a challenge that was pleasant, for a change. I Amazon-shipped her the updated version of \u201cDrawing on the Right Side of the Brain\u201d and gathered sketching and painting supplies, choosing quality stuff that respected both her talent and her new limits.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I keep a Dia de los Muertos altar every October: it is crowded with photos of those who\u2019ve departed my life, tiny skeletons and sculpted animals, flowers, and a dish of sand where anyone who wishes can insert a paper slip with the name of a beloved ghost. Sometime after November first, I burn the paper names, put their ashes in a bag with the flowers that are left, and scatter them in the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On November fourth, I hauled my art box for Diane to the post office, then took the subway to Brighton Beach, where I scattered the ashes and blossoms in the surf. It was a glorious day, unseasonably warm, sky alive with puffy clouds and sea gulls. As I walked back from the beach, my phone rang.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It was Diane\u2019s Hospice nurse, calling me at Matt\u2019s request. \u201cHe thought you might want to know,\u201d she said: Diane now seemed to have begun the hard work of \u201cActively dying,\u201d a term I knew well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As I hung up, I cursed myself for being a month too late with my box\u2014for not sending it instead of mere food. Not that I was sure that she\u2019d have found it any more intriguing, of course, but\u2026a weak hope, in the face of her despair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I FaceTimed with Diane later that day, courtesy of friends who were visiting. She was pitifully thin, laughing, loopy on Hospice morphine&#8211;and beer, which she sipped through a straw with her buddies\u2019 help.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The next day, more friends came to visit, and I Zoomed with them and her. This was brief; she was restless, anxious; the desperation in her eyes reminded me of the night, back in June, when I held her as she cried, and she asked if I thought that there might indeed be a God like the Catholic one we were brought up with, who would punish us for our sins when we died.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I told her a god who made people imperfect, then punished them for their imperfections, made no sense at all. This seemed to calm her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I wanted, when I saw her in my phone screen, to reach through, touch her face, assure her that nothing she did in her life was beyond redemption. But all I could do was tell her I loved her; all I could do was say goodbye. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>RIP Diane Pajunen: April 27, 1955 &#8211; November 7, 2021.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>October 27, 2021<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In March, I wrote here about the trials of duplicating a high-security Medeco key for my door\u2014about my Medeco security ID card, mysteriously lost until it fell out of my husband\u2019s wallet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Copying a Medeco key requires this card and a special key blank. That first time I got copies, a gray-faced, wraith-like locksmith at a hardware store two blocks from home ignored the card, grabbed a blank, duplicated the key, then scarfed a package of Peeps (it being Easter time). He charged me $67 for three (keys, not Peeps). One replaced a key our son had lost; I gave another to our daughter, and the last to our building super.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Our daughter recently lost our keys\u2014the Medeco key, plus our ordinary mailbox key.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I walked, again, to the hardware store two blocks from me, but it was closed for the Jewish holidays.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The next day, I presented my card in a different, goyish, hardware store. The keymaker looked at it and said, \u201cI can\u2019t do that today\u2014the Medeco machine broke. The part comes in tomorrow; come back then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I handed him my mailbox key. \u201cCan you do two of these?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cSure.\u201d He ground two new keys, using mine as a template. The machine shuddered and bucked, vibrating the counter. He returned my key, and charged me less than a dollar for the two copies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At home, I tried my new mailbox keys. They didn\u2019t work. I tried my old key. <em>It<\/em> didn\u2019t work. I hit the keyhole with WD40; still, nothing worked. The guy had made lousy copies and ruined my original. I would not bring him my precious Medeco.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I found another hardware store where a sign said they copied Medeco keys. I gave the clerk my key and my card. He looked at the key. \u201cI\u2019m sorry,\u201d he said. \u201cI don\u2019t have the blank for that one.\u201d But he made me three cheap mailbox keys. They worked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I returned to the hardware two blocks away after the Jewish holidays. The store had changed hands since my first copies were made there: gone were the gallons of roach-killer and the dingy displays of mouse- and rat-traps that I remembered. Now everything was sun-bathed and clean. There was actual hardware\u2014on shelves, scattered over the floor, strewn on the refinished counter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The new owner, a plumpish middle-aged man, agreed to make two duplicate Medecos for a mere $30. I gave him the money and the card. He fingered the card. \u201cWhat\u2019s this for?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cSecurity,\u201d I said. \u201cI guess.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He handed it back. \u201cI\u2019ve never seen one of those.\u201d He studied my key, jotted numbers on a receipt book, selected a Medeco blank, and ground it into shape.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I watched uneasily as he held his new key up to mine. Was he squinting? Did he need glasses? It all seemed too easy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYou need two?\u201d he said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWhy don\u2019t you give me this one now, and let me make sure it works?\u201d I said. \u201cThen I\u2019ll bring it back and you can make another.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He agreed. I walked home and tried the key. It didn\u2019t work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I walked back to the store. \u201cIt didn\u2019t even fit in the keyhole.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He took his key, took my original, and compared them. \u201cMaybe it needs a thinner blank.\u201d He rifled through his inventory, selected another blank, and once again ground a duplicate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I walked home and tried the newer key. It didn\u2019t work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I WD40-ed the keyhole and could force the key in, but it wouldn\u2019t turn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The next day, the guy selected a longer, thinner blank and ground it down to size. I compared it with mine: the tip looked wider, rather squashed. But he was so proud of his custom-ground key that I didn\u2019t call his attention to it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This one didn\u2019t fit into the hole at all, even after I greased it with WD40. I brought it back the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He sighed. \u201cI\u2019ve got a guy who\u2019s been doing this for more years than I\u2019ve been around. He comes in tomorrow. I\u2019ll have him do it.\u201d He took my number.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Three days passed; no call. I stopped in. His guy, he said, had a family emergency and didn\u2019t come in. Could I give him two days?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cSure.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I came two days later. He gave me my $30 back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And I was back to Square One.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I asked Google Maps to find me another locksmith in the neighborhood. It gave me an address four blocks from my home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The street was one I routinely walked. I\u2019d never noticed the place before, although I must&#8217;ve passed it hundreds of times. It was a cramped storefront: A shoe-repair, watch-cleaning, key-copy place that could undoubtedly buy your old silver, make passport photos, send telegrams, and wash your cat on demand. A vintage Brooklyn business.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I walked in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One tiny room, packed with dusty boxes, bags bulging with mysteries, scraps of dark fabric and leather, stray boots, loose shoestrings, spools of thread, old watches, Russian-language newspapers, old and current. An elfin old fellow sat on a stool in the corner, behind an ancient sewing machine. He was bent over, sewing a buckle on a shoe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There were no keys, no blanks, none of the machinery I\u2019d seen in those hardware stores. \u201cDo you make copies of Medeco keys?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He glanced up. \u201cYou have a card?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I held out my Medeco card.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He took it read the embossed number on its front. I handed him my key. \u201cYou\u2019re certain this card\u2014\u201c he waved it, \u201cbelongs to this key?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cAbsolutely. I need two copies.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He jotted my phone number on a paper scrap, returned my key, set my precious Medeco card among scissors and thread on his desk. \u201cI will call you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I edged back down the cluttered aisle to the door, praying that he would keep my Medeco card safe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He called me the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I arrived to find him re-soling a boot, telling a man in a yarmulke that he had no time to chat. He glanced at me, picked a key ring from a nearby hook, and handed it over. It held two keys, my Medeco card\u2014hanging by a small perfect hole he\u2019d punched in its corner\u2014and a blank ID tag. \u201cFifty-five dollars.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I paid him in cash. A lot, yes\u2014<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But the damned keys worked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>September 18, 2021:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It was a dilemma: I was as dressed up as I get\u2014which is to say, I put on a legitimate pair of slacks and a silk shirt\u2014and I had come to the shoes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I rooted through my closet and found a pair of black ballet-style flats. I slipped them on and realized immediately that I had bought them before I\u2019d acquired the bunions and the little toe-spacers I wear to make the bunions livable. That was a few years ago, and I was dismayed to see that not only were the ballet flats a bit smallish, but with their fine, stretchy leather, they made my feet look as if I were smuggling a pair of squirrels.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I put them in that bag I keep for St. Mary\u2019s thrift shop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I rooted some more, and found the glitter-covered gold sneakers I\u2019d bought for two Bar Mitzvah after-parties we\u2019d gone to in quick succession two years ago. Fun faux-formal. But this was a memorial service for the lovely wife of a friend, and\u2026not so appropriate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I used to have a good black leather pair of Mary Janes that went with all my dress-up clothes, except for the beaded gown I wore for an Emmy Award ceremony twenty years ago, for which I had bought a pair of fine gold flats. I only ever wear flats; I\u2019ve never felt comfortable in heels. Not even as a teenager, when I wore them because I was a teenager.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But I\u2019d recently thrown the Mary Janes out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I hadn\u2019t worn them since the Pandemic was declared. Then, a few months ago, my husband and I were going to the wake of a friend\u2019s husband (*NOTE: at my age, my dress-up affairs are wakes, funerals, memorial services, and the Bar Mitzvahs of grandkids\u2019 friends). I put on my dress slacks and silk shirt and my Mary Janes and jumped into the car.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We got out at the funeral home, and I noticed a clump of dried mud on the ground and kicked it away. Then, as we walked into the building, I noticed another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I scraped my shoes on the step, and a small clod crumbled off, which made me wonder if the last time I\u2019d worn them had been in a muddy barnyard. But I couldn\u2019t remember going to anything in a muddy barnyard that required dress-up shoes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It was certainly curious.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I settled into a pew in the little chapel, and looked down at my shoes. The right one looked strangely unbalanced. I slipped it off and turned it over, and discovered that those black dirt-clumps I&#8217;d seen were parts of its disintegrating sole.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Once you realize you\u2019re wearing half a shoe on one foot, it\u2019s hard to act casual among mourners in a reception line. We made our way through to comfort the widow and her family, and I felt another piece dislodge; I didn\u2019t dare look down, where it would mock me from the maroon carpet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I walked out at last with as much dignity as I could muster, my right foot a half-inch closer to the ground than my left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My Mary Janes did not go into the St. Mary\u2019s bag.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So. Back to this week\u2019s memorial service:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I briefly considered the fine gold flats I\u2019d worn so many years ago to the Emmy Award ceremony, long before the grandchildren\u2019s friends\u2019 Bar Mitzvahs and my friend\u2019s husband\u2019s (and coincidentally, my Mary Janes\u2019) wake. But they were too formal for my current outfit\u2014and although they were more elegant than the black ones, they, too, were ballet-style shoes, so there was the squirrel-smuggling factor to consider.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I put them into the St. Mary\u2019s bag, then took them out. What if one of my kids or grandkids wins an Oscar or a Nobel or something, and I have to don that beaded dress again on a moment\u2019s notice, and I\u2019d just happened to get bunion surgery in the meantime?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I re-shelved the fine gold flats.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Paul told me it was time to leave. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Just a minute; I&#8217;m looking for my shoes&#8211;&#8221; It was still warm out, so I assessed my sandal collection. Three pairs: brown leather Birkenstocks that I don\u2019t wear because they hurt my feet (Into the St. Mary\u2019s bag), rubber Tevas that I do wear, but only on the beach, and a pair of sweet black dress sandals that\u2014could it be?\u2014I bought for our daughter\u2019s wedding. Her <em>first<\/em> wedding, more than 25 years ago. The fancy wedding in Deerfield Village, with our daughter radiant in white, trailed by a flock of bridesmaids in long, narrow black floor-length dresses (the wedding I call The Theme Party).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I think I might\u2019ve worn the sandals to her second wedding, too. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I turned them over\u2014the soles, to my amazement, were still intact\u2014but I realized that they wouldn\u2019t work because both weddings were before the bunions, and I would never be able to squeeze my deformed feet into the cylindrical suede sleeve in the front. Which, given the fate of both marriages, would probably be a relief to my daughter if she ever happened to stage a third wedding. Not that either of us is superstitious (Knock wood).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Into the St. Mary\u2019s bag\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I had boots\u2014but the season was wrong. Also, they were hiking boots. That, and a pair lined with fake fur, for snow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There was one brand-new, unworn pair of black-and-navy sneakers I had bought at the New Balance outlet in Lawrence the last time we had passed through Massachusetts. It was on our way to Maine, to collect Paul\u2019s Mother\u2019s ashes from a Kennebunk funeral home (see *NOTE).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Seriously,&#8221; Paul called. &#8220;We have to leave.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I brought the black-and-navy shoes down from the shelf, strung their laces\u2014wishing those laces were black or navy, and not bright white, but oh well\u2014transferred my orthotics from my current grubby grey sneakers, and put the new ones on my feet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Those are new sneakers?&#8221; Paul asked. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Yeah.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Don&#8217;t you have any dark laces?&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;No.&#8221; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He gave that little shake of his head that&#8217;s the equivalent of &#8220;It Is What It Is,&#8221; and we left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The memorial ceremony was beautiful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>July 2, 2021:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Note<\/strong>: <em>I&#8217;ve been away physically;  at the same time, my site has been ported to a new owner, and has also been gone for a few days. In gratitude for getting it back, I&#8217;m giving you readers a little mental vacation to the Brooklyn I know and love&#8211;a small essay I named:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Barhopping in The Slope<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I edge up to the subway booth again today, to check the panel of security-camera photos taped to the smeary glass in the corner opposite the attendant, who\u2019s texting on his phone. I pause briefly to register the photos\u2019 subjects\u2014a teenager in a blue hoody; an old guy with a round belly, frozen in an admirable leap over the turnstile; a kid ducking under, backpack scraping the metal bar\u2014then I slink up the stairs to Brooklyn\u2019s 7<sup>th<\/sup> Avenue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is no purple-haired old woman. I\u2019m not there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Not yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Why am I so furtive? I gave up religion long ago, but Catholic guilt stalks me like the ghost of Sister Stanislaus and her knuckle-whacking ruler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s been a month since the crime.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It was a Tuesday, 3:45 in the afternoon; I had descended into this station from my yoga class in Brooklyn\u2019s hip, upscale Park Slope neighborhood. I\u2019d stopped at the Food Co-op, so I carried my rolled yoga mat and my ecologically-correct cloth bag of organic groceries. I was tired, disheveled, eager to go home; I shifted bag and mat, and swiped my Senior Citizen Metrocard through the reader at the first turnstile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The green words in the turnstile\u2019s little window said: <em>Swipe Again at this Gate<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I re-swiped, pushed the turnstile. Nothing. <em>Swipe Again at this Gate<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I cursed, swiped again. Pushed. Nothing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Card Already Swiped at this Gate<\/em>, the little green words crowed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The turnstile didn\u2019t budge.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The gate\u2019s electronic brain believed I\u2019d successfully paid my fare, so my card wouldn\u2019t work again\u2014a security measure, so I can\u2019t sneak somebody else in on my reduced-fare card.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Which would be fine, except the turnstile wouldn\u2019t let <em>me<\/em> pass.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This had happened to me once before\u2014same turnstile, same station\u2014and the man in the glass booth had buzzed the barred door next to the gates open for me. He hadn\u2019t even looked at me; this must\u2019ve happened all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I rebalanced my bag and mat, and turned to the booth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It was empty. In my 12 years in Brooklyn, I had never seen that booth empty. But it was. The entire station, in fact, was empty\u2014except for me, my non-functional card, and the locked turnstile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I turned to the second gate, and swiped my card there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Card Already Swiped<\/em>\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The other two turned me down, a united Great Wall of Fuggedaboudit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Downstairs, beyond the gates, a train ground to a stop. I had two options: I could wait for the booth attendant to come back from wherever\u2014Starbucks? The hospital down the street? The dead?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Or I could buy a full-fare card at the machine, for twice what my Senior Metrocard swipes from my bank account, plus a dollar for the card itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I should give the MTA nearly <em>three times<\/em> my Senior fare because <em>their<\/em> turnstile was screwed up? Seriously\u2014the erratic, overcrowded, under-repaired MTA? Why would anybody do that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The train below rattled away; heels clicked on the stairs, in the Forbidden Zone beyond the gates. A woman in a designer business suit emerged from below. I waved my useless card, and called, \u201cCould you open the door for me?\u201d I nodded toward the barred door, which, without the attendant, could be opened only from her side. \u201cI swiped\u2014\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She looked me up and down. \u201cI don\u2019t think so.\u201d She pushed through the turnstile and clicked past me up the stairs to the street.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I ground my teeth. More than two million people in Brooklyn, and I get the one who would actually <em>Say Something<\/em> if she <em>Saw Something<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It was now 4 pm. Almost rush hour; I had to catch the next train, or I\u2019d stand all the way home. The booth was still empty. The station, again, was empty.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I examined the turnstile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I couldn\u2019t clear the top of it; at 72, I can barely clear a Downward-Facing Dog.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Another train pulled in below; it was now or never. I shoved my bag and mat beneath the gate and ducked under the bar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The space beneath the turnstile was limited\u2014and, unfortunately, yoga had not rendered me \u00fcber-flexible. I scrabbled under the bar on tender hands and arthritic knees, as a gang of commuters wandered up from the platform, and a gaggle of hipsters in vintage T-shirts and man-buns descended into the station from 7<sup>th<\/sup> Avenue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is no way to look nonchalant as you stagger up from under a turnstile. In Brooklyn, people don\u2019t stare; they avert their eyes and pretend they didn\u2019t see a bedraggled old woman with purple hair drag her illegal self under the bar. I brushed dirt off my jeans, grabbed my yoga mat and groceries, and double-timed down the stairs to catch the train.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The train was gone. The platform filled up, but I stood alone, in an empty cone of condemnation, invisible and too visible. I ached to defend myself: I wasn\u2019t a criminal; I\u2019d <em>paid my damned fare<\/em>\u2014just ask the first turnstile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But if I engaged the people who carefully avoided me, I\u2019d no longer be the grubby old purple-haired cheater-woman. I\u2019d be the raving purple-haired harridan who just might smack you with a yoga mat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A train came, at last. I shoved into the rush-hour crush of bodies and stood, sweaty and unfairly ashamed, all the way home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I pass through the Park Slope 7<sup>th<\/sup> Avenue station three times a week. There is always an attendant in the booth. He never looks at me. Or anybody, unless they knock on the glass after the first gate takes their money and denies them entry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My photo is not taped to the glass of his booth. Not yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But my skin crawls when I check: Somewhere, someone is looking at my picture. Passing it around. Judging.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Perhaps snickering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And he\u2019s reaching for the tape.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>June 13, 2021<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My sister, eight years younger than I, was sick of being in the hospital. She\u2019d cooled her heels there\u2014the left heel would notice cool, but not the right\u2014twice in the past two-and-a-half months. She had come in the first time with what she thought was a stroke; it turned out to be a seizure: brain metastasis from an undiagnosed lung cancer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She was healthy, two weeks from retirement from a tech desk job, about to graduate to do something she loved more: repairing, painting, upgrading her small house in Minnesota. Her dining room was full of tools and paints and an industrial-sized ladder. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Her first hospitalization had produced a zap of brain radiation and one infusion of immunotherapy. She was doing well when she was discharged. Her son had requisitioned a newer iPhone for her; he&#8217;d put some helpful apps for aphasia on it, because she could take in information, but when she tried to speak what she knew, her once flowing words slowed to a crawl. When he felt confident that she had regained her independence, he went back to Florida, where he lives, works, and studies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then came the second seizure, a pile-on of fear; a scan that claimed nothing was amiss, even though her right leg and arm had grown numb. Her Aphasia deepened; she had to fight her brain to put out a coherent sentence. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The answer, said the docs at the hospital, was more Physical Therapy. More Occupational Therapy. More Speech Therapy. She could ramp it up by transferring to a rehab floor on the hospital for a short term\u2014maximum two weeks, they promised\u2014combined therapy program there. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>All she needed was another imaging to make sure everything in her brain was still just fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We waited for her to go to Radiology, she in her bed, I in her folding guest chair. She picked up her new iphone, casually fingered in her access code. The phone&#8217;s security screen opened. &#8220;Oh!&#8221; she said, \u201cYou should&#8230;write it down&#8230;for me.\u201d I hadn\u2019t seen the numbers she&#8217;d touched, so I asked what she\u2019d entered. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She closed the screen and tried to reopen it. Nothing. She could remember, with great difficulty, only four of the digits.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cOh, dear&#8211;So\u2026you haven\u2019t seen your son&#8217;s Aphasia apps?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cNo. I\u2026can\u2019t\u2026the code.\u201d She grimaced. \u201cI have\u2026Aphasia.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Suddenly that struck us both as hilarious; we laughed ourselves to tears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That morning, I had decided to make my killer granola for us. I had noticed that her gas oven&#8217;s dial, unlike the range&#8217;s burner dials, didn&#8217;t have a &#8220;light&#8221; feature. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;I saw you have a gas oven,&#8221; I said to her. &#8220;Do I have to do anything special to make it work?&#8221; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWe don\u2019t\u2026use the\u2026oven,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWhy not? Will it blow up the house?&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cNo. Not\u2026that.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI have to light it manually?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She shook her head. The words were stuck. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Your cats live in it?&#8221; I suggested. Her two elderly cats are mysterious; I&#8217;d been in the house for two days, and the only evidence I had that they existed was their disappearing food. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She rolled her eyes. \u201cNO! Not&#8230;complicated. Just\u2026we\u2026&#8221; She sighed. &#8220;We. don\u2019t. use. it.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She was waiting for the new scan results when I went home. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I filled a bag with workout clothes to bring her for tomorrow&#8217;s rehab transfer, then assembled ingredients I\u2019d bought at Trader Joe&#8217;s for my killer granola. If the oven wouldn\u2019t burn the house down, didn\u2019t need to be match-lit, and wasn\u2019t hiding her mystery cats, I reasoned, what could go wrong?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I turned the dial to 325 to preheat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I turned it off five minutes later. A half-hour after that, smoke still filled the house. I opened windows and doors\u2014carefully, given the mystery cats&#8211;and flapped towels to disperse it, but the smoke alarm shrieked like a banshee. At last, I set up the industrial-sized ladder, disconnected the damned alarm, and buried it in my flapping-towel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We <em>don&#8217;t<\/em> use the oven.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As I headed upstairs to bed, one of my sister\u2019s two mystery cats appeared, mewling and pacing. Josie, the female. She looked desperate; she led me to my sister\u2019s bed. She looked under it, so I did. This exercise had a Timmy\u2019s-in-the-Well vibe&#8211;was her older male companion, Howard, in trouble? What if&#8211;oh, god!&#8211;Howard was&#8230;dead? I&#8217;ve never had cats; we had rodents when the kids were growing up. You could bury a hamster in the back yard. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But&#8230;a dead cat?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Josie led me to the closet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No Howard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How would I tell my sister??<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Shaking, I went downstairs, sat on the couch. Howard leapt out from behind an overstuffed chair. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He stood still, grey and indignant, burned me with his marble-eyed stare for a moment, then sashayed off through the still-smoky living room.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I brought my sister\u2019s clothes the next day, but she was still in her old room&#8211;she had yet to hear the scan results. I tried to leaven her anxiety with tales of burning down her house and killing her cat, but she was distracted. Ultimately, she dismissed me because I was too annoyingly helpful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>An hour later, her nurse called and asked me to come in again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The scan had been read. Near the now-zapped and shrunk original tumor was another, larger tumor, surrounded by edema. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We cried together. I listened to her hard-fought, agonizingly slow existential questions: Why me? Why now? We were stricken that there were no answers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She wanted to go home. Now! To her little vintage two-story house whose bedrooms and sole bathroom were upstairs, reachable only by a narrow, steep stairway with one railing that, going up, would be on her affected side.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But her docs wanted her to stay for a little more PT, a little more OT, a little more Speech T\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She wanted off her emotional-roller-coaster steroid regimen, which her Radiology doc had hoped would reduce her brain edema after her radiation during her first hospitalization. Back then, it had seemed to work, to return her to near-normal. But after that, it seemed to have done nothing; the new scan had shown that in spades. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She wanted them stopped. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>NOW.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Her Radiology doc, standing at a screen displaying her April brain against her June brain, told her it wasn&#8217;t wise to go off steroids cold turkey. She needed patience, he suggested gently.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;I&#8230;am&#8230;NOT PATIENT!&#8221; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He conceded that there was no proof that the steroids <em>had<\/em> worked; but would it have been <em>worse<\/em> without them? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cBullshit,\u201d she told me. The word was quite clear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>May 30, 2021<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I voted last week. By mail, because I will not be in Brooklyn for the June 22 primary election.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I have voted in person at the polls many, many times in my life. There, I just sign in, verify my signature, pick up a ballot, carry it to a poll booth, mark it with the pen they provide, carry it to the vote-counting machine, and slide it in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This primary was my first mail-in vote ever, and I was surprised at how much more complicated this process was:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>First, I had to read the instructions. Then I had to unfold the ballot and ink in the spaces next to the names <em>just so<\/em>, and refold it <em>just so<\/em>. Then I had to sign and date the ballot envelope <em>just so<\/em>. Then I placed the properly-marked, properly-folded ballot <em>just so<\/em> in the signed and dated ballot envelope. I then put the filled ballot envelope in the provided addressed envelope, positioned <em>just so<\/em>, so that the barcode showed through its little cutout window. Finally, I stamped it, and dropped it in my corner mailbox.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Further complicating this procedure, New York adopted \u201cranked choice voting\u201d this year for the first time. There are roughly eight and a half million people in New York City. This year, four million of them are running for mayor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So I had to not only choose my favorite candidate, but also four runners-up. And ink in each little space next to the names in the proper columns.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Whew.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Don\u2019t get me wrong; I did discover that there are some good things about voting by mail:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I could sit at my computer and Google the backgrounds, statements, and goals of the candidates before I marked my ballots. Considering the number of mayoral candidates, this cut through my confusion about who had done what nasty stuff, or said what dumb things, that led them to be publicly mocked by which other candidates.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Also\u2014again thanks to my proximity to my computer\u2014I actually got some substantial skinny on the judge candidates. At the polls, I\u2019m always a deer in the headlights when I face the lists of judge candidates. Trapped in my little poll booth, poring over a slate of twelve people I\u2019ve only met on posters taped to telephone poles by their campaign managers, I\u2019m asked to \u201cplease choose six,\u201d and I panic and forget everybody\u2019s bona fides. There have been times when I\u2019ve left the whole section blank.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But\u2014thank you, Google!\u2014not this time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And, of course, I can vote at home without a mask. I can vote in my underwear\u2014or even stark naked (although I would certainly wear my mask to the mailbox).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So now I understand why\u2014even with the marking, folding, dating, and footing the bill for a postage stamp\u2014a friend in Washington State actually prefers voting by mail. Not that he has a choice, since everybody there can <em>only<\/em> vote by mail.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Which brings me to those states where the legislatures are tightening up on mail-in voting because it is unsafe and fraudulent:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It seems to me that making it even harder to fill out and mail in an absentee ballot is flat-out discrimination, because it adds actual burdens to a process that is already more complicated than walking into the polls, verifying yourself, picking up, marking, and sliding a ballot into a counting machine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It therefore discriminates against people who <em>have<\/em> to stay home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It therefore discriminates against people who <em>want<\/em> to stay home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It therefore discriminates against Washington State. And, for that matter, Colorado, Hawaii, Oregon, and Utah\u2014also states where you can <em>only<\/em> vote by mail. Because all those reforms are being made because mail-in ballots are unsafe and fraudulent, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Therefore, the reformers are mocking Washington State, Colorado, Hawaii, Oregon, and Utah for running unsafe and fraudulent elections.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You might ask, \u201cSez who?\u201d Well:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sez The Former Guy, whose knows, because his very own write-in ballots are unsafe and fraudulent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And sez the entertainment commentators on Fox Entertainment Channel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And, most importantly, sez the Republican Party, which is intent on reforming all those unsafe and fraudulent mail-in systems.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Frankly, I don\u2019t know how Utah has been allowed to stay in the Republican Party, considering they vote exclusively by mail. Seriously. If Liz Cheney got herself kicked out of power in the House because she disagreed with the new, improved Republican Party line, why doesn\u2019t the state of Utah get disempowered for the same sin? Why doesn\u2019t the Republican Party insist that the state of Utah be downgraded, perhaps to a territory like Puerto Rico, or a non-represented <em>whatever<\/em>, like Washington DC?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And so: Colorado, Hawaii, Oregon, and good old Washington State all mailed in unsafe, fraudulent ballots in the 2020 election\u2014predominantly for Democrats. Because mail-in voting is unsafe and fraudulent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Utah mailed in unsafe, fraudulent ballots in the 2020 election\u2014predominantly for Republicans. Because mail-in voting is unsafe and fraudulent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So how does the Republican Party and Fox Entertainment, which clearly know their un-safety and fraudulence, let their Utah get away with that??<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s a mystery.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>May 19, 2021<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Last week, we buried Paul\u2019s mother\u2019s ashes in St. Mary\u2019s Catholic Cemetery in Northampton, MA.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The box had sat on our guest-room shelf for nearly a year. I opened it once, considered scattering pinches of her ashes in some of her favorite places\u2014Longwood Gardens, Maine\u2019s Marginal Way; maybe even Fenway Park. But Ev tended to keep herself to herself and soldier on\u2014her Spirit Animal, I swear, was Scarlett O\u2019Hara (\u201cI\u2019ll think about that tomorrow\u2026Tomorrow is Another Day\u201d)\u2014and reaching into the plastic bag for the grey dust that was once her body felt too intimate, too invasive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I had the privilege of tending Ev in her Assisted Living apartment for over a month, after her bout with pneumonia in January, 2020. A slim, elegant woman, she grew skeletal in a Hospice hospital bed in her living room as we watched the Tennis Channel together. At 102, she still held court for staff and visitors, remembered details from their lives, chatted with them about their kids, their ski trips, the new garage they\u2019d built. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My husband Paul, too, gathers bits of intelligence about people to spin into conversational common ground. Who knew this was hereditary?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Paul tells stories, and is known to embellish for entertainment value. Even so, his odder tales about his mother are true.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Their first story: he was her second child, born two years after his sister, and his parents were thrilled to have a boy. They named him R. Paul O\u2019Neill. The \u201cR\u201d didn\u2019t stand for anything; it was, Ev admitted, code for \u201cOur.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The town clerk of Northampton, where he was born, knew his father, \u201cSport,\u201d whose real name was Raymond. So when he issued the birth certificate, it said \u201c<em>Raymond<\/em> Paul O\u2019Neill.\u201d His parents never corrected it\u2014probably because it would have been too embarrassing to admit they\u2019d named their little darling \u201cOur Paul.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And then there was the story about how Ev hit him with a baseball bat when he was five. She was showing him how to swing the bat, she told me, and he stepped too close. He still has the lump on his skull.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019d expect a dad called \u201cSport\u201d to teach his son baseball\u2014but it was Ev. Sport worked long days as a construction supervisor, and drank long nights. His paycheck suffered from rounds he bought for his buddies at local watering holes, and by horseracing bets that, as he put it, went for the \u201cbetterment of the breed.\u201d They ultimately had three kids, and there wasn\u2019t enough left to get by, even though they lived in Ev\u2019s parents\u2019 house and she made clothes for the kids and herself. So she took a job as a secretary\u2014unusual, almost scandalous, in those days, for a woman whose husband earned good money.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By the time I met Paul, Ev and Sport lived apart. Sport was working his way through AA\u2019s 12 steps, and Ev was, in the parlance of those times, the uber-competent \u201cGirl Friday\u201d to the CEO of her company.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When Sport tackled Step 9\u2014make amends to those you\u2019ve harmed\u2014he asked his estranged wife what he could do to atone for the trouble he\u2019d caused her. She said, \u201cYou can give me a divorce.\u201d She had fallen in love with a man she\u2019d met through work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And so began her Second Chapter, which seemed charmed: as the fourth wife of the wealthy Mr. Eble (pronounced &#8220;ebbly&#8221;), she lived in a Philadelphia suburb, joined a country club, golfed, and played killer bridge. She hosted friends with grace, dressed in fine store-bought clothes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Catholics can\u2019t remarry after a divorce if their first spouse is still alive; they\u2019re excommunicated for bigamy. Instead, they need an annulment\u2014a laborious, costly slog through mountains of paperwork, at the end of which the Church rules that the first marriage never happened. Ev became a Lutheran, but you could see her heart wasn\u2019t in it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Once, at a family gathering, my older son asked her why, if she really wanted to stay Catholic, she had gotten a divorce rather than an annulment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She said, \u201cI would <em>not<\/em> make my children <em>bastards<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The assembled kids, spouses and grandkids laughed. Someone pointed at Paul. \u201cToo late for one of them.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She tried to be offended, but couldn\u2019t resist a laugh, even at her own expense.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A story: back when Kym was three, Ev came to babysit her so we could get a weekend away. We came back to hear she\u2019d met the mother of one of Kym\u2019s little friends in the supermarket. \u201cAre you bringing her to Denise\u2019s birthday party this afternoon?\u201d the mom had asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A party?!? She rushed Kym off to buy a present, dressed her festively, and schlepped her to the event. \u201cShe had a great time,\u201d Ev told us, \u201cbut I wish you\u2019d warned me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I explained that Denise was a casual friend; she hadn\u2019t invited Kym.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI <em>thought<\/em> her mom looked surprised.\u201d Ev laughed as heartily as we did. &nbsp;\u201cWell, Kym gave her a <em>very<\/em> nice present, so I\u2019m sure we\u2019re forgiven.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Story: years later, after both her husbands had long been buried and she had fallen too many times in her staircase-filled house, we took Ev around the Philly area to check out Assisted Living facilities. At one, we learned that two of her second husbands\u2019 three ex-wives lived there. \u201cYou\u2019d have a lot in common,&#8221; I said. &#8220;And as a bonus, the staff wouldn&#8217;t mispronounce your name&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cThank you,\u201d she said. \u201cBut I think I\u2019ll pass.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It was a tale we laughed about with her at the Maine AL where she ultimately lived, near her older daughter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Which brings me to one more story, from that last period together: One evening, a vicious Maine thunderstorm knocked out her building\u2019s electricity. A generator kicked in to handle the lights, but the outage also tripped her ceiling fire alarm. We stuffed cotton in our ears, but even Ev, who was nearly deaf, still suffered its banshee howl. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Paul found a maintenance man downstairs, but he was rigging lines for the kitchen freezers; he would get to Ev\u2019s alarm when he was free. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Paul pulled a chair under the shrieking fixture and began to remove the casing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cLeave it alone,\u201d Ev commanded. \u201cYou\u2019re just going to mess it up. Let the man fix it!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He stepped down. \u201cYes, ma\u2019am!\u201d He snapped a salute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We passed an hour together, ears muffled but still assaulted. At last, Paul said that since he couldn\u2019t help, he might as well go back to our niece\u2019s house, where he was staying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ev was outraged. \u201cYou\u2019re going to leave us here by ourselves? Two <em>helpless<\/em> <em>women<\/em>?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I laughed, picturing Ev and me, tied to the railroad track, train bearing down. WhoooWhooo&#8230; But she would not be jollied.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cThere\u2019s nothing I can do, Ma,\u201d he said. \u201cYou told me yourself. I\u2019ll find the maintenance guy on my way out and remind him about the alarm.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He bent to kiss her cheek; she turned away. \u201cI can<em>not<\/em> believe you\u2019re leaving us alone like this.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Minutes after Paul left, the maintenance guy removed the alarm casing and disconnected a wire\u2014an operation Paul could have performed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We went to sleep, wrapped in silence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the morning, Paul arrived bearing Dunkin\u2019 Donuts. His mother greeted him icily: \u201cOh, look, everybody\u2014the <em>HERO<\/em> is back.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So much for \u201cOur Paul.\u201d Who knew sarcasm, too, is hereditary?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To my relief, she was speaking to him again by noon.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Late on nights when she couldn\u2019t sleep, Ev told me stories of her life. She sketched\u2014in spare, reluctant strokes\u2014pain and disappointments that had lurked beneath the gleaming skin of her Second Chapter. She touched upon her grief over her younger daughter\u2019s estrangement. Those were restless, two-sleeping-pill nights, and they were few.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Her more numerous good nights were warmed by memories of her parents, who came here with nothing and made a life rich with love; whose care fortified her to soldier on through dark times, doggedly reaching for that Tomorrow that is Another Day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Born on the eve of a plague, Ev ran out of Tomorrows on June 16, in the plague year of 2020. She was in her older daughter\u2019s care then. Now, she\u2019s back with her mother and father in Northampton.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Rest in peace, Evelyn Shebak O\u2019Neill Eble\u20141917-2020.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>May 1, 2021<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She came late in my shift on Monday. A tiny, wrinkled, bird-boned woman, crooked and bent, dragging a small wheeled suitcase. She showed me a paper with the note, \u201cMedical Records.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The journey to Medical Records in my hospital is long and tortured. I said I\u2019d guide her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI KNOW where it is\u2014it\u2019s right HERE.\u201d She pointed to the nearest elevator.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI\u2019m afraid not,\u201d I said. \u201cHow long has it been since the procedure\u2014the one you need records for?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cTwo weeks.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cAnd you were told they\u2019d be at Medical Records?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYes. And Medical Records is right up HERE.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cTrust me\u2014I\u2019ve led a lot of people to Medical Records. It\u2019s kind of far, and very confusing.\u201d I added, \u201cThere are people I took there last week who are still wandering around, looking for the exit.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She was not amused. \u201cHrumph. Take this.\u201d She pushed the handle of her wheeled suitcase at me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We set off to a more distant elevator bank. I was surprised at her spry pace, considering her age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI KNOW Medical Records is not this way,\u201d she insisted. We rode the elevator to the second floor, then stepped out to follow a long, meandering hallway. She mumbled, \u201cHow do they expect anybody to find this on their own?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Eventually, we reached a cul-de-sac with several closed doors, and a little elevator hidden in a side wall. I pushed the button. \u201cThat first elevator put us on the <em>second<\/em> floor. Now we\u2019re on the <em>lobby<\/em> floor,&#8221; I pointed to the L next to the door, &#8220;with no change in elevation, right? This elevator\u2014\u201d I motioned her inside\u2014\u201ctakes us to the <em>second<\/em> floor. Again.\u201d I bowed. \u201cMagic.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She was not amused.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cThis is the lobby of the old hospital building,\u201d I explained. \u201cThe new wing, where we were, was built on lower ground.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The elevator door opened; I deposited her at a plexiglass window labeled \u201cMedical Records,\u201d and handed her the wheeled suitcase. \u201cTo get back, press the button for \u2018Lobby.\u2019 Then just follow the long hall back the way we came.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cNO!\u201d she demanded. \u201cYou stay right here\u2014You can\u2019t expect me to get back by myself.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I let the elevator go and joined her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She knocked on the plexiglass window, pulled down her mask, shouted, \u201cI NEED MY RECORDS.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The woman in the office pointed to a clipboard on our side of the window. \u201cFill out that form, please,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My companion did so, and held it up to the plexiglass.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYou need to sign it, and put your date of birth,\u201d the woman said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My companion frowned at her. \u201cI\u2019m NOT IN THE RIGHT PLACE.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWhen was your procedure?\u201d the woman asked through the window.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cTWO WEEKS AGO.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYou\u2019re in the right place.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cHRUMPH.\u201d She signed, jotted a date, again held the paper to the window.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The woman inside did a double take. \u201c<em>That\u2019s<\/em> your date of birth? 1963?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cTHAT\u2019S IT,\u201d my companion said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She was nearly twenty years younger than I.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I deposited the completed request form into a box that was too high for my companion to reach. \u201cNow, WHERE ARE MY RECORDS?\u201c she asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWe\u2019ll mail them to you. Five business days.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cNO!! DON\u2019T MAIL THEM. I DON\u2019T TRUST THE MAIL.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The woman explained that it took time to find and copy the records.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;I WANT THEM NOW.&#8221; My companion gave me a withering look. \u201cI TOLD you this wasn\u2019t the right place.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I asked the clerk if my companion could pick them up in person when they were ready.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cCertainly, she can do that.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My companion hrumphed. \u201cCALL ME WHEN THEY\u2019RE READY.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWe don\u2019t call you\u2014you call us. Next week, call and make sure they\u2019re completed.\u201d The woman jotted a number on a slip of paper.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI DON\u2019T HAVE YOUR NUMBER.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The woman sighed. \u201cI just wrote it down for you.\u201d She pushed the paper through the space below the window.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I grabbed the wheeled suitcase and we took the little elevator down to \u201clobby.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She halted and pulled a flip-phone from her skirt pocket. \u201cThe car company said they\u2019d wait for me. I bet they didn\u2019t.\u201d She jabbed a number, and immediately lambasted someone on the other end: \u201cMy driver SAID he\u2019d WAIT; is he there? He BETTER be.\u201d She snapped the phone shut\u2014I swear it <em>hrumphed<\/em>\u2014and walked on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYou really do have to pull your mask up onto your face,\u201d I reminded her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She stopped and gave me a knowing look. \u201cThese masks are KILLING us.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I told her Covid was killing us, not the masks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hrumph!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cNo, really,\u201d I said. \u201cI had it. Bad; I thought I\u2019d die.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYou SAY you had Covid.\u201d She shook her head. \u201cYou had a bad immune system.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cMy immune system is fine.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cOh? You checked your Vitamin C, D, Iron, Potassium\u2014\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cMy doctor keeps close tabs. My immune system is not a problem. Look, you really don\u2019t want Covid. Do you plan to get vaccinated?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She folded her arms in front of her crooked, bird-boned chest. \u201cI pray to God every day. He protects me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYou\u2019ve heard that joke?\u201d I said. \u201cGuy gets sick, he says to God, \u2018God, I&#8217;m so sick&#8211;you said you\u2019d protect me from this!\u2019 And God says, \u2018I tried. Why wouldn\u2019t you take my vaccine I made for you?\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She was not amused.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When we reached the entrance, she pulled up her mask, but not over her nose. \u201cYou took me to the wrong place. Let me go where I had the test; they\u2019ll give me those records now and I won\u2019t have to come back.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cThe Medical Records clerk said you were in the right place. She would know.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She hrumphed once more, and stalked off with her wheeled suitcase to find her driver.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He BETTER be there, I thought.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>April 23, 2021<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I didn\u2019t know the number, but the caller ID said Hoagland, Indiana, where I have family, so I picked up the phone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cHello?\u201d An older woman&#8217;s voice. \u201cI\u2019m calling from Consolidated Research\u2014\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cNo, thanks,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cAgh!! Please don\u2019t hang up!\u201d the voice rough, New Yawk-tinged, panicked. \u201cIt\u2019s just a survey. I gotta get somebody to answer or they\u2019ll close me down! Please! It\u2019s quick, I promise. You may not even have to answer; it\u2019ll kick you off if it doesn\u2019t like your zip code.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cA survey. On behalf of whom?\u201d I demanded.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI don\u2019t know. I just read \u2018em. You ask me, this is the stupidest survey I ever gave. Questions about Coney Island. You know Coney Island?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I sighed. \u201cOkay.\u201d I sat down, phone cradled to my ear. \u201cAsk me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What was my zip code? \u201cOh, that\u2019s great\u2014you qualify.\u201d Did I work in\u2026a long list of employment categories?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cNone of the above,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Did I have kids under 18 living with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cGod forbid.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cDo you speak Spanish in the home?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cIf I did, nobody&#8217;d understand me. My Spanish sucks.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cSo&#8230;did you grow up speaking Spanish? Are you Hispanic? Or are you Caucasian?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cCaucasian.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cAh. Okay.\u201d Did I have a driver\u2019s license? \u201cGreat\u2014it would kick you off if you didn\u2019t.\u201d A car?? \u201cGreat! So can I ask you the survey questions?&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cGo for it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201c\u2018Do you ever go to Coney Island?\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cSure&#8211;I live in Brooklyn; it\u2019s close. But I don\u2019t go to the amusement park.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cIt doesn\u2019t ask me that\u2014like I said, it\u2019s really a stupid survey.\u201d A pause. \u201cOh gawd. My computer\u2014Agh, I clicked something\u2014Please, <em>don\u2019t hang up<\/em>. You still there?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYep. I\u2019m here.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYou have no idea how hard this job is\u2014nobody wants to talk to me. So&#8230;Coney Island is close to Brooklyn?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cIt\u2019s <em>in<\/em> Brooklyn.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cIn the city? I didn\u2019t know that. I was a kid, I grew up down in Wantagh. Never much got off Long Island till we moved away. I never been to Coney Island. Never, that whole time.\u201d Pause. \u201cO<em>kay!<\/em> Whew! My computer\u2019s back. So. \u2018How do you go to Coney Island? By car, by bus\u2014\u2018\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cSubway. It\u2019s faster than driving.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cSubway. Okay. Now. You ever heard of \u2018New York Surrey Service?\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cNo.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cHave you seen ads about \u2018It\u2019s safer to drive alone\u2019?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cNo.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cHow about\u2026um\u2026 \u2018Ride Share.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cDon\u2019t know it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She read a long list of transportation options; the only one I recognized was MTA\u2019s Select Bus Service.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cOkay. So\u2026the subway. \u2018Do you have fears about using the subway?\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI did at the beginning of Covid. But now that I\u2019m vaccinated, I use it a lot.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYou been vaccinated?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYeah,\u201d I said. \u201cHave you?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI\u2019m in Florida\u2014it\u2019s not so easy, you know? My mom just got hers\u2014Johnson and Johnson. I\u2019ve heard some bad things; I\u2019m thinking maybe I might not get it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I explained about the rare blood condition found in the J&amp;J case, and about how it mostly seemed to affect women between 18 and 48. \u201cI assume your mom\u2019s probably okay.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cAh. That\u2019s good to hear. What kind did you get?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cPfizer.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cThat\u2019s two shots, right? Was it bad?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI had some side effects,\u201d I said. \u201cThey were worse than a lot of people\u2019s, but that\u2019s because I had the disease.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWhat disease?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cCovid.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWow. You <em>had<\/em> it?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYeah, a year ago.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cOh, wow! How\u2019d you get it?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWe got it on a plane back from California. It was when everything was closing down, and this guy who sat behind my husband on the plane was coughing all night.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cSo that was what, back in March? Geez. I bet the guy gave it to the whole plane. Was it bad?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I gave her the quick sketch: three weeks fighting for breath, the ground-rocks cough, aching joints, exhaustion, rolling bouts of chills, nausea, dizziness, and one baffling day with no sense of smell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She tsked. \u201cWell, God bless\u2014you managed to survive.\u201d <em>Survoive<\/em>. \u201cYour husband had it too?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYeah. We both pretty much lost the month of April 2020.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWell, thank God you <em>survoived<\/em>. Friend of mine and his son, they come down from North Carolina two weeks ago? We went out on a boat together. They had the test, you know? right before they came down, and everything was fine, right? They go back, and the guy,\u201d she lowered her voice, \u201cHe. Has<em>. Covid<\/em>. He\u2019s <em>sick<\/em> now. His son didn\u2019t get it, and he was sitting right next to me on the boat.\u201d She paused. \u201cSo I think I&#8217;m okay, but I\u2019m thinking maybe I should get the test?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cOh, I\u2019d get tested. You can pass the virus around if you do have it\u2014even if you don\u2019t have symptoms.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cReally?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYeah. I\u2019d definitely get the test, if I were you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cHuh. Maybe I should. What do you do\u2014you retired up there in Brooklyn?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cSomewhat. I\u2019m an editor. I work part-time, mostly with freelance writers.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cOooh\u2014that sounds like fun. I\u2019d love to do that.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYeah, I enjoy it. Are there any other survey questions? Anything else?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cNaw. Except there\u2019s\u2026 \u2018How much money your household makes a year.\u2019 You don\u2019t have to answer, but it goes, \u20180 to $5000\u2014&#8217;\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI\u2019ll pass. But before you sign off, why does the phone ID come up \u2018Hoagland, Indiana\u2019?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cBeats me. Maybe that\u2019s where the guy wrote the survey lives? They have all kinds of numbers depending on what the survey is. They don\u2019t tell us why. We just read.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She thanked me\u2014heartily, many times\u2014for taking the survey, for not hanging up, for qualifying to answer the questions. For not getting kicked off. \u201cThis was fun,\u201d she said. \u201cYou\u2019re the only one I had today who stayed for the questions.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I laughed. \u201cI enjoyed talking with you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;God bless you&#8211;you have a good day!&#8221; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I hung up, wondering if this call was recorded for quality assurance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>April 16, 2021<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I posted that I had finished my Covid vaccination on a Twitter Vaccination Facts site the other day. A fellow tweeter congratulated me: \u201cEnjoy your microchip! Bill Gates is thrilled to have you!!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I was confused. Why would Bill Gates want me? I\u2019m 73, lame, cranky, and much too opinionated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And why a microchip?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I Googled \u201cmicrochip,\u201d and found an FAQ about pet microchips. There it was in black and white: \u201cThe procedure\u2026is <em>similar to administering a vaccine<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Oh, dear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What is the purpose of my microchip?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The site told me: \u201cThey are radio-frequency identification (RFID) implants that provide permanent ID\u2026that cannot fall off, be removed or become impossible to read.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Microchipping a pet costs about $45, the site added.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Chips are not, the site warned, tracking devices like a GPS. Unlike my iPhone, my microchip will not tell people where I am.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This was a little disappointing. What if I go for a walk and leave my iPhone at home? If I get abducted, my microchip will not tell anybody <em>where<\/em> I am. But people will know <em>who<\/em> I am if some savvy investigator thinks to run a chip-scanner over my cold dead body.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Or&#8230;will they know? The site says they\u2019ll only find my microchip ID number, not my owner&#8217;s name and address, unless I register for a National Pet Recovery Database.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bill Gates, being my owner now, must run a National People Recovery Database. I found it rather touching, that he would spend $45 to identify my cold dead body, busy as he is. Should I be afraid of that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I returned to Twitter for the answer. On #BillGatesMicrochip, one tweeter tweeted to Bill himself: \u201cYou can cut me off from buying and selling, but you can NOT ever make me go against my LORD Jesus.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My microchip will keep me out of church? Make me disobey my husband? Make me think that old white guys in the state and national legislatures are not the bosses of me and my body? Make me curse and swear and drink wine and beer and even rum and refuse to buy my yarn at Hobby Lobby?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Oh, dear!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bill is doing that to me with a microchip that will identify my cold dead body?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For further clarification, I switched to Instagram.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There, a man wrote: \u201chows does b.gates, patented the \u2018VIRUS\u2019,..look it up.\u201d This intriguing declaration was followed by an argument about how my vaccine is not a <em>vaccine<\/em>, but \u201ca experimental shot (syringe emoji),\u201d and how another Instagrammer who challenged this idea \u201cdid absolutely no research on this shot. You just mad becuz you got chipped and probably believe you cant get covid now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The discussion frayed into mask issues. One man said: \u201chaven\u2019t worn a mask since this started in New York and this was the worst hit city supposedly in the world besides wuhan. I\u2019m fine I only got sick for a week and it wasn\u2019t crazy. My immune system did that for me. If it did that what do I need the vaccine for.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I&#8217;m pretty sure I met this guy on the subway. I was suffering from Covid brainfog at the time, so I probably forgot to thank him for enriching my immune system.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Somebody else wrote, \u201cYou know when Bill involved it\u2019s all about population control.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Which brought me back to Gates&#8217; microchip. It\u2019s\u2026free birth control?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No, someone else wrote. <em>Mind<\/em> control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Aha. That explains why, after I shopped for plant pots on line, I was <em>flooded<\/em> with un-asked-for ads about plant pots. And how, just now, <em>right after I paid my ATT bill<\/em>, I got a call on my phone from an electronic voice saying <em>ATT had cancelled my phone <\/em>(<em>Press \u201c1\u201d to reply<\/em>).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bill. You bastard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I paged farther down the discussion. A \u201cMystic and Yogi\u201d referred me to a site\u2014the Hal Turner Radio Show\u2014where a man informed me, with a omniscient nod of his bald head, that he\u2019s a scientist who studied thousands of positive samples of Covid and determined they were all \u201cinfluenza A or B.\u201d <em>There is no Covid<\/em>. He was very sure of himself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I Googled his name and found another, hairier, scientist on YouTube who said the bald man\u2019s scientific methods were faulty. The hairy scientist said the bald scientist was very likely lying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My head hurt from all the deep thinking I was forced to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Or\u2026maybe it was the microchip.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I went back to Instagram, to the \u201cMystic and Yogi\u201d who referred me to the Hal Turner Radio show and the bald man. They had written: \u201cThis pandemic is a fraud and fake. Materialism rules over spirituality.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then they added something that astonished me because it so perfectly illuminated the whole argument:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cAnyone who takes this vaccine will die. Some quickly, others in time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Oh. Dear\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>April 9, 2021:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My driver\u2019s license had to be renewed in October, so I did it from home because the DMV was closed for Covid. It was on-line, except for my eye test; I paid a pharmacist ten dollars to watch me read a chart on his wall.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The next month, our DMV announced limited openings. I wanted to upgrade to an \u201cenhanced\u201d license\u2014which you must do in person\u2014so I could travel in the US without a passport. I took the next available appointment, two months away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I read the DMV checklist. Proof of residence: I gathered bills and statements&#8211;check. My present license; my passport: check. Proof of my social security number\u2014<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I couldn\u2019t find my SSN card in my paper files. But the checklist said a tax form 1040 would work, so I blocked out the financial information and copied the top, with my name, address, and SSN.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I downloaded and completed my DMV forms. Check!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Two months later, I stood before a DMV clerk with my folder of forms, IDs, and proofs. All went swimmingly until she saw the copy of my 1040. \u201cWhat\u2019s this?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cProof of my social security number.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cIt\u2019s blocked out.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cThe number is there,\u201d I pointed. \u201cWith my address and full name.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;\u201cIt has to be the original,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cSeriously? I should give the DMV my full financial information for a <em>license<\/em>?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cThat, or your social security card.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI couldn\u2019t find my card. I have my passport\u2014it lets me travel all over the world. And a license you guys gave me. All of which, at some stage, probably involved my SSN\u2014\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cThen use your passport to travel.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I left without my Enhanced license.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The next day, I tried to get a copy of my social security card. On line; the SS office was closed for Covid.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The site had me download my license and passport photos, then take a current picture with my computer for an electronic match. My passport is six years old; my license photo, older still. The facial recognition software didn&#8217;t feel I\u2019d aged gracefully, so I flunked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A further complication: my SSN was issued in my birth name, Kramer. O\u2019Neill is my married name. I sometimes regret taking Paul\u2019s name because so many computers hate the apostrophe. And now\u2026this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I returned to my files to search for my ancient SSN card. Et voil\u00e0\u2014it was stuck to the bottom of the drawer. I made a new DMV appointment\u2014two months away\u2014and assembled IDs and proofs. I added my original Wedding Certificate to show that the name on my SSN, though now different, was still mine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My Wedding Certificate folds out from a white padded satin cover, and contains my wedding date, signatures of two witnesses and a priest, my birth name, Paul\u2019s name, a declaration that its information comes from my city clerk\u2019s records, and the impressive gold seal of the Catholic Church.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Two months later, I stood before another DMV clerk. All went swimmingly until she questioned my residence. I showed her an insurance letter, a VA medical bill, and a statement from Verizon about my WiFi service.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYou need a utility bill.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI pay utility bills on line.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She frowned, and handed me a form to swear I live in Brooklyn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then she saw my Wedding Certificate. \u201cThis isn\u2019t a Marriage Certificate. This seal is from the Catholic Church, not the city clerk.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cSee this?\u201d I pointed. \u201c\u2018\u2026authorized by a license issued by the clerk of the circuit court of Allen County and State of Indiana, dated the 11th day of August, 1970.\u2019 It\u2019s 50 years old, original, and it backs this up\u2014\u201c I pointed to my social security card\u2014\u201cso you can see that my birth name \u2018Kramer\u2019 is now \u2018O\u2019Neill.\u2019\u201d I pointed to the name \u2018Kramer\u2019 on the Wedding Certificate, then the card\u2014\u201cso it belongs to me in spite of my marriage. I have no Marriage Certificate; <em>this<\/em> is all I got when I got married. Besides my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWe only accept a city clerk\u2019s seal, not a church seal.\u201d She asked, not unkindly, \u201cWhy do you want the enhanced driver\u2019s license? You have a passport; you can travel anywhere.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I left without my Enhanced license.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On line, I ordered a Marriage Certificate from the city clerk of Fort Wayne.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I also emailed the \u201ccomplaints\u201d address on the DMV website. I asked, \u201cIs this upgrade supposed to show I am who I am and I live where I live? Or is it really an exercise to see if I can obey the <em>exact<\/em> letter of some law that could accomplish the same thing everything I brought does, BUT only with material I, at 73, can&#8217;t easily access in the modern world?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The state DMV sent me a number. I called and explained my complaint to three semi-sympathetic voices. At last, a fourth voice\u2014the three earlier voices\u2019 supervisor\u2014scolded me. \u201cTHE. STATE. OF. NEW. YORK. DOES. NOT. ACCEPT. CHURCH. CERTIFICATION!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My Marriage Certificate came three weeks later\u2014a smeary copy of a microfiche copy of the 50-year-old original. The print was tiny; the names unreadable. On back it bore an unimpressive impressed seal from the city clerk\u2019s office. I secured a DMV appointment two months off, gathered new proofs of residency, including a copy of our gas bill (slightly truncated; the bill was not meant to print), paper-clipped my SSN card to the Marriage Certificate, downloaded and completed the forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Last week, I stood before another DMV clerk. She okayed my residency, then pulled out the Marriage Certificate. \u201cAnd you brought this\u2026why?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cMy social security card is in my birth name.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She squinted. \u201cIt looks like one of those old-timey records.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I laughed. \u201cHave you ever heard of microfiche?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI think I heard the term in my college library.\u201d She turned the paper over and tapped the faint raised seal. \u201cThis is really the only thing that we look at.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cSo I hear.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I left with a paper that says \u201cInterim License, Enhanced,\u201d which represents the license, which will come in the mail.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On it\u2014unlike on my present license and passport\u2014the name \u201cO\u2019Neill\u201d has no apostrophe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I wonder if I should be concerned.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>March 31, 2021:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I got three copies of my apartment key today. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When Paul and I bought this apartment 13 years ago, we were given four ordinary-looking keys and this little plastic card. It said &#8220;Medeco&#8221; on it&#8211;the name of the company that had manufactured the keys. I was told to keep the card in a safe place; our keys were &#8220;secure&#8221; Medeco keys, and we could not copy them without it. So I climbed on a stool and put it on a high shelf in the utility closet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I gave one key to our daughter Kym, who lives nearby. Paul and I each have one. The fourth became our guest key.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For three years, we never needed to use the little plastic Medeco card. Then our younger son and his wife came to visit, and he lost the guest key.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Now I needed a new guest key. So I climbed on a stool to retrieve the little plastic Medeco card from the high shelf in our utility closet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It wasn\u2019t there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Had I mis-remembered where I\u2019d put it? Had I hidden it somewhere else? Somewhere more secure? Somewhere so secure that even I would never find it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I tore the apartment apart, pulled out drawers full of beads. Drawers full of paper clips, staplers, and rulers. Even the dreaded kitchen junk drawer, where I pawed through loose batteries, screw drivers, twist-ties, rubber bands\u2014so many rubber bands\u2014and rusty padlocks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nothing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I asked Paul if he\u2019d seen it. \u201cWhat\u2019s it look like?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cIt\u2019s a little plastic card that says \u2018Medeco.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI don\u2019t even know what that <em>is<\/em>,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Perhaps we didn\u2019t really need it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I went to our local Ace Hardware. The man shrugged. \u201cI can\u2019t copy this without a Medeco card.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I checked a hardware-and-locksmith shop two streets away. It was a tiny, dusty storefront hung with rolls of wire and tape, shelves full of wrenches and pipe fittings. A slight, stooped ghost in grizzled beard, yarmulke, and wispy grey <em>payos,<\/em> sat behind a counter covered with papers, old coffee cups, an ancient cash register, and a dented bowl where female customers could place their money and get their change, so he wouldn\u2019t accidentally touch a woman who was not his wife.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The old man would not look at me. \u201cPfft. Medeco. You got a card?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And so it went, intermittently, for ten long years. If I passed a hardware store, I checked. Always no; always the card. I handed the key to locksmiths in Manhattan, without comment. \u201cMedeco?\u201d they inevitably asked. I checked on line, but I needed the little plastic Medeco card&#8217;s number for an order. I even tried to copy it at a \u201cCopy Any Key!\u201d kiosk in a Walgreens. It spat my &#8220;secure&#8221; Medeco key on the floor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Last week, my husband\u2019s wallet slipped out onto our sofa cushion. Some of its contents dropped into that side crease that is the sofa-equivalent of a dryer\u2019s sock Purgatory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He dug into the crease. Two expired museum cards and\u2014 \u201cWhat\u2019s this for?\u201d He handed me our little plastic Medeco card. He had no idea how, when, or why he had acquired it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I took it immediately it to Ace Hardware. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The man said they copied Medeco keys, but&#8211;he was sorry&#8211;not <em>&#8220;secure<\/em>&#8221; Medeco keys. No, not even with my little plastic Medeco card. He recommended that I go to that hardware-and-locksmith shop two streets away. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So today, that&#8217;s where I went. It had been ten years; the old man was gone, but the place was still tiny and dusty. The shelves sagged under gallon jugs of roach killer, bedbug spray, rat poison, and ant bait.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A skeletal middle-aged man blinked at me from behind a plastic sheet hung over a plank frame. He was gray&#8211;his shirt, his pants, and his face. He wore no yarmulke, nor a mask. The counter before him held the ancient cash register, papers, a coffee cup, plus a credit card machine, and an unopened bag of cheery yellow candy peeps.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I gave him my little plastic Medeco card and my key. He ignored the card and ground three keys for me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I tapped the card. \u201cDon\u2019t you need this?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cPfft.\u201d His voice was as thin as he was. \u201cFour percent charge for credit.&#8221; I sighed and gave him my Visa card; he slotted it into his machine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He dropped the keys on my little plastic Medeco card and whispered that I should sign the receipt. As I did, he ripped open the bag of peeps and stuffed one into his mouth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At home, I told Paul I\u2019d copied our key.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWhat, maybe ten bucks?\u201d he asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cSixty-seven dollars for three.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYou mean the electronic key for downstairs.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cNo, our apartment door.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWhat?? They&#8217;re just <em>keys<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cThey\u2019re \u2018secure\u2019 Medeco keys.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWHAT??? That&#8217;s ridiculous. Why didn\u2019t you just go someplace reasonable, like Ace Hardware?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Pfft.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>March 23, 2021:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Today I received an email from Microsoft telling me that I had to update my mailbox. It instructed me to click Update Mailbox.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I clicked Update Mailbox, and opened a page where I had to give my email address and my password.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I quickly closed the page and went back to re-examine the email. It told me I had exactly one day to act: \u201cNotice: Ignoring this message would lead to the termination of your Mailbox&nbsp;without permission.\u201d The email looked quite official, from its Sent address ending in msn.com to its microscopic signoff: \u201cThank you for using Microsoft 2021.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So I googled \u201cMicrosoft mailbox closing\u201d and I found a site that said its purpose was to Answer all Microsoft-related questions. It looked quite official, from the genuine Microsoft logo to the chat feature at the bottom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I clicked open the chat feature and told it my problem: was this email I had received from Microsoft real, or was it a quite official-looking phishing scam?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If I ignore it, will I indeed have no email box tomorrow?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I need my email box. Time is short. Please, help me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The Chat bot listened carefully, then instructed me to click Continue, where I could fill out a form with my name and email address, and for a one-dollar (fully refundable) fee, I would gain access to the Answer service. There, a real support person would analyze what I asked and tell me if the Microsoft email was authentic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I clicked Continue, and opened a page where I had to give my name and email, and add my Visa number, expiration date, code, and address to launch my (fully refundable) one-dollar Answer service.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I stared at the page and I felt myself sweat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I closed down my computer and curled up on my couch and, for the first time in more than 70 years, I found myself sucking my thumb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>March 16, 2021:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Every Monday I work a shift as a volunteer screener at a local hospital.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I put on a uniform, an N95 mask, and a pair of safety goggles. I take my place behind a movable barrier and zap visitors with an instant thermometer that, when held near-but-not-touching one\u2019s forehead, reads one\u2019s body temperature.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A year ago, when I suffered three hacking, nauseating, exhausting weeks of Covid19, I never really had a fever. Still, when I began this gig, I thought temperature-screening made sense: fever <em>could<\/em> be a symptom of Covid, right? I might catch somebody with a fever, and save the lives of people who might otherwise interact with them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019ve been doing this for several months now. I\u2019ve never gotten a temperature above 98.2\u2014the norm being 98.6. Usually, if I get a reasonable human body temperature, it hovers around 97.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>If<\/em> I get a reasonable human body temperature. Which <em>might<\/em> happen once in five to ten attempts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In actual fact, according to our thermometers, the average visitor to our hospital is officially Walking Dead. So I often lie about my findings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Still, I make the effort to measure, maybe because I used to be an RN. Or maybe because I grew up Catholic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I work with two to four paid staff members; they become annoyed with me because I take too long. Most of them just wave the thermometer in the direction of the visitor, and then they lie. Same result; less effort. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Yesterday I worked with a new young paid staff member who was supposed to jot down the temperatures I told her on those papers we give visitors to show they\u2019ve been screened. No matter what I told her, true or false, she wrote \u201c96.5,\u201d which seemed to confuse some of the visitors who heard me announce their readings. In her defense, the new young paid staff member probably didn\u2019t hear me through the earbuds plugged to her phone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You might say the problem is the thermometer. That\u2019s true. But since I started this gig, I\u2019ve become interested in the efforts of screeners in other places. When they try three or four times with a hand-held thermometer, then write something down, I tell them I do the same thing, and it\u2019s never right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They always smile and nod.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is more advanced technology out there. Two nights ago, we went to a restaurant where we had to face a smartphone on a flexible arm. It couldn\u2019t get a reasonable human body temperature on either of us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Last month, when we went to the VA for our vaccines, we were directed to a free-standing electronic pillar where you line up your face just so, and it clicks and spits out a ticket with the reading. 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